Let’s face it, sometimes we all put our “foot in it” and say the wrong thing. But the real skill I figured out is how to recognize what was said and then work to reduce the times we say it…
A pal of mine and I were grabbing coffee the other day and we brainstormed our top 10 – communication pitfalls.
- Asking your lover, pal or family a question when you aren’t truly interested in hearing them respond.
- Being afraid to tell someone “ I just want to be heard – can you listen without trying to give me an answer”. If more of us did this, I think we would actually find ourselves in a healthier place of trusting ourselves to seek our own answers…
- Asking questions that are a “lose”-“lose” game – you know this one, “Honey is my ass too big in these jeans”.
- Saying “ok” to a comment or statement when you really mean “ I hear what you are saying but am not in agreement”
- Omitting information because you don’t want to engage in a challenging conversation about it – Omission of the truth is only a shade different than an outright lie in my opinion and while it may make you feel better avoiding conversation – I find it always comes back to bite you on the ass in the end.
- Forgetting that a conversation is a dialogue between two or more people. That means someone’s speaks and another responds until a natural conclusion is reached – I like the old adage “if you...
