Daddyhunt Blog Posts from November 2009

Duke Greenhill
November 24, 2009
Category: Health

As you know, I write a great deal of material for fitness magazines like Men's Health, Men's Fitness, Exercise for Men, and others. In over a decade of writing for such "rags," I am chagrined that their pages speak (almost) exclusively to the 35-and-under crowd, with little content relaying the scientific and physiological discoveries pertaining to more mature men. I am currently working on my first book, "The Secrets of People Who Never Get Sick," with a dear friend of mine, New York Times bestselling non-fiction author, Gene Stone, who happens to be over 40. In our discussions about fitness over 40, I discovered the dearth of information on weightlifting and the forty-plus man. I want to ameliorate that here, so I turned to a colleague, Dave Draper, who is a 40-plus professional bodybuilder, and together we formulated this sample of FAQ's… fitness and the man over 40.

Q. Is it true that men over 40 lose the ability to pack on mass? I want to get bigger. Can I?

A. Two truths should be revisited and underscored at this point: we all age, and as we do, our bodies respond to exercise less efficiently. A third truth can be added: 40 to 50 are still very good years for growth. Our smaller muscle groups -- rear delts, calves, obliques and the like -- that have not been overtrained in the previous 40 years still hold tremendous potential for growth. At the end of the day, everyone is different, and genetics will play an integral role in your ability to add mass. The most important thing: the over 40 lifter must be careful not to be dominated or...

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Jim Sullivan
November 17, 2009
Category: Dating

This blog post is about how to meet a single guy for dating, courtship and a long term partnership. Though hooking up with guys can be fun and exciting I’m in the “how to” find a Boyfriend/Soulmate/Partner/Spouse/Husband/ trade-- the love business, so to speak.

Four myths of dating.

First: “All the good guys are taken.” What a bummer this one is—I can assure you that not all the good guys are taken and in fact there is a great pool of adorable, smart men waiting to meet their future mate. Some of them are reading this post right now.

Second: “I can’t deal with rejection” Reality check: rejection is part of the dating scene. It’s a great equalizer—gorgeous guys, and men from every state of life have gotten rejected. It sucks but ultimately the best answer to rejection is a four letter word, “Next!”

Third: “Men will flock to me for dates.” If only! Ninety percent of men are not going to approach you-you’re going to have to approach them. Even hot guys have to make the first move. I promise you’ll develop a sexy confidence –a quality many singles are drawn to.

Fourth: “Dating is not work.” Dating is work but with a great dividend: a boyfriend. But it’s also has to be fun; otherwise, you’ll never be motivated to take a risk. Suggest to your date fun places to go (amusement park, wrestling competition, gallery opening) and to do (drive to the ocean, horseback riding). No need to turn first dates into exhaustive talkathons. Get out there and have some fun.

Dealing with Resistance. My partner and I met at one of my weekend...

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Jim Arnold
November 7, 2009
Category: Health

Caveat: I’m not a doctor, and I don’t even play one on TV. This is all my opinion.

When that phone rang one dreary gray morning back in 2001, and it was my urologist calling with test results, I fully expected to be exonerated once again from a medical malady, as I’d always slipped by before, no matter what the test, usually with passing grades and a smile.

Not this time. The news as cloudy as the weather, the apologetic voice said that the biopsy results were positive for prostate cancer, and we needed to make an appointment to discuss what to do next.

I was in shock. Only 46 that year, my lucky personal experience with disease was limited to increasingly infrequent colds and flus, a broken collarbone at 6, and a nasty bout with Hep A. For me, the gold standard around which all health issues revolved was the yearly HIV test, and as long as I could keep passing that, nothing else would even come close.

As I did my research and discussed the options with the doctors, the more it occurred to me that prostate cancer (PC) was a numbers game. There was a number for the PSA (prostate specific antigen), a blood test you take, which when elevated, can be an indicator of PC. There was your age, also a number, a higher number (say, 75 vs. 46) being indicative of both the kind of treatment that would be recommended and the likelihood of surviving PC and dying of something else. Finally, there was the Gleason score, which was a numbering system indicating the aggressiveness of the cancer cells, a higher number being worse...

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