First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.
FALSE STARTS: ‘Tis the season to ponder New Year’s resolutions, isn’t it? You know, those lifestyle, behavioral or attitude shifts inspired by the conclusion of one year and the promise of a new beginning when the clock strikes midnight on December 31st.
It’s estimated that somewhere between 80% and 90% of New Year’s resolutions either never get off the ground or bite the dust after January 1st. That’s a pretty daunting statistic; daunting enough to nix New Year’s resolutions altogether. Except… Except if you’re someone who really believes—or wants to believe—in the magic of fresh starts and the excitement, not to mention satisfaction, of trying new things, thinking in new ways, and shedding old, unproductive habits to make room for new, energizing ones.
Why should you resolve to do anything if your chances of success are so slim? I have no idea, which leads me to suggest a different question altogether: How can you create a New Year’s resolution that sticks?
One obvious resolution-spoiler is embedded in the very definition of the word, resolution: “a declaration, a determination, a motion, a decree.” Is it just me, or is there something yawn-worthy about these words? Not to mention that they’re momentum-killers, in that they evoke an aura of conclusiveness: as if deciding on, or announcing, an outcome is the same as actually achieving it. If you were a screenwriter, it would be like giving your agent, or even your best friend, the...