The Cuddle Buddy
I think we can all agree, sometimes you need a good fuck. But how many out there just need a good cuddle? I live for cuddling. And don't get me wrong, I love sexy times as much as the next guy - and ideally I want both - but lately I just want someone in my bed to watch a movie with. The problem is, the channels in which to find this are scarce. Most guys online or on the street are looking to get off, and again, that's needed, but I just want someone to stay afterwards and hang out for a bit. But this is easier said than done. For one, personalities don't always mesh. You can have incredible mind blowing sex and then, well, then things can go terrifyingly awkward. Doesn't make sense, but it happens. And you can't just call someone over for a cuddle that you haven't met yet. Groundwork needs to be laid, drinks or food need to be shared, and then maybe cuddles are appropriate. Above all else, you can't call exes to cuddle. You just can't. You can call an ex for sex (though, still not a great idea), but a cuddle is out of the question. Mostly because cuddles can sometimes be more intimate than sex. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but oftentimes I feel closer to someone when cuddling than I do when boning. Which again makes finding a random cuddle so damn hard. I'd love to have a little black book of cuddles, but even that seems difficult to fill. As previously stated, plucking a stranger out of the blue to cuddle just won't do and it takes all the fun out of it if you don't know the guy.
I dated someone this summer and after a few starts and stops we decided to do the cuddle buddy thing. We'd meet every Sunday, have dinner at his place or mine, make out and then watch Dexter wrapped in each other's arms. It was really something wonderful. But sadly, seeing each other on a regular basis and with intimacy more along the lines of a couple, the strings we said would not be attached ended up in mess of a tangle. And now with no dates on the horizon, I don't want to just meet someone and fuck, and so I'm in search of this elusive cuddle buddy.
We've talked about the fuck buddy here before and the different interpretations of intimacy, but what's your take on the situation. Is a cuddle buddy something that can be found and kept? Or is it just an inherently complicated relationship that's not meant to exist?