Posts by Robheartsdh

RobHeartsDH
March 24, 2014
Category: Wellness
Daddy Decades

As I enter a new decade of my life, I've been reflecting a lot of what I've learned in my 20s. On the one hand, it makes sense that I've learned lesson, grown, and matured into a stronger man. But it actually wasn't until I was speaking with an intern who was just entering his 20s that I realized just how much knowledge I had accumulated and could pass along. Which got me thinking what an incredible resource we all our for each other when it comes to life lessons being shared. Of course it's a much easier to learn when you've experienced something first hand, but a little empathy along the way can make you feel less alone during those tougher times. Which is why I thought it'd be a fun little crowd-sourcing experiment to compile all our our collective wisdom into one post. I want each and every one of you out there to tell us a defining lesson of each decade you've lived starting with your 20s. So for example if you're 62 you'd have a lesson from your 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s for us. Feel free to list one from each or a select few, just as long as you contribute.

With enough submission, I'll take the very best of the lessons and cull them down into one post. There's so much we can learn from one another and many benefits that we can pass along from our mistakes, experiences, and interactions.

Bonus points for listing which decade you learned the most in.

RobHeartsDH
March 10, 2014
Category: Eye Candy
MCM

Let's start this week right, by examining many of the hot elements in this one photo:

(in no particular order)
1. Those Beefy Legs
2. That Adorable Bull Dog
3. The Adorkable Glasses
4. Union Flag Undies
5. High Socks
6. Hairy Forearms

Did we miss anything?

Who's your #MCM, otherwise known as Man Crush Mondays? Perhaps it's another member on this site? If so, call them out in the comments or leave the name of someone else so we can all enjoy the beauty of the man crush.

RobHeartsDH
March 6, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
MISTER Carl Sandler HuffPost Live

Is there a difference between a midlife crisis and a gay midlife crisis? That's the question they're asking over at HuffPost Live with our very own CEO Carl Sandler, Marcie Blanco, and Steven Petrow who wrote the book Complete Gay Manners weighing in on the discussion. Watch the video below and see where you stand on the subject:

While I can't claim to be midlife just yet, from my perspective I've seen more gay men come into their own at 40 and beyond and really own who are they are. They seem to get better looking, confident, and just generally more in touch with themselves and the world. Maybe in the straight world getting in better shape and taking better care of yourself causes an alarm of sorts to go off, but seems like par for the course in our community. If anything, I admire the qualities normally associated with a midlife crisis which essentially is trying something new and revamping your life as you fit later in the game.

Have you or someone you know experienced a gay (or plain ol') midlife crisis? If so, tell us how it went down and if you think it's different for gays vs. straights in the comments below.

RobHeartsDH
February 17, 2014
Category: Sexuality
Animals

Not to be a downer, but more and more I feel like open relationships are an inevitability. I've let go of the dream of soul mates and falling in love forever, but I think I may need to let go of the dream of monogamy too. It's not that it can't happen, but it just doesn't seem like we're programmed that way. It'll take some recalibrating on my generations part, but maybe it'll be easier if it's taught at a younger age. There certainly would be less disappointment. I guess I've always been curious about sexuality from a primal perspective. What are our natural instincts? What are we internally programmed to want and do? When you remove societal pressures and norms, were we really ever supposed to mate for life?

It's not a lot, but this video at least debunks the theory that much of the animal kingdom mates for life and that it's not just a human thing to do:

Animals aside, what are your thoughts on monogamy? Do you think it's possible to be monogamous and still be satisfied? Let us know in the comments below.

RobHeartsDH
February 14, 2014
Category: Dating
Wood

Remember when you were in grade school and had to make a Valentine for every member of your class out of construction paper? Or if you're on the Hunter side of things, maybe you had some store bought Ninja Turtle Valentine's to give away (shell puns and all). Either way, what a treat it was to receive a Valentine from someone. Personally, I prefer the old school method of cutting out hearts and creating a Valentine from scratch. The point is whether your single, single-ish, dating, or married today is a day to share some love. Sure, it's a commercialized holiday and love should be shared everyday, but all too often we find ourselves too busy to stop and appreciate those around us (romantic or otherwise). So this weekend, let's all make it a point to send some love to a daddy you admire, a friend, a family member, or even a stranger.

Remember, Cupid has got a big load today and wants to shoot all over your chest (because that's where your heart is). So let today be the day that you message someone on Daddyhunt and see what happens. Who knows by this time next year, he could be your full-time Valentine.

Let us know in the comments below your very best Valentine's Day experience or gift.

Now get with the love sending and let us know what happens!

RobHeartsDH
January 27, 2014
Category: The Arts
Daddy Face

The Advocate has been doing a great job with showcasing some incredible artistic talents in the LGBT community as of late, including one of my favorite's John Arsenault. Recently though they featured photographer Vincent Keith's work from his online magazine Mascular and it's a photo series that I think you'll all enjoy. The series features portraits of men with a real honesty in the way they're shot. You can see more of the series here

Keith says:

'Portraitists tend to fall into two categories, those trying to reveal what is hidden and those who try to highlight what is there. I fall into the latter category. I think everything about a character is there to see — plainly. It's just knowing how to look. My objective in taking a portrait is not to 'get behind the veneer' — I question if that is indeed possible or desirable. Do we really see 'truth'? Most people I photograph have no idea what they look like. When you picture yourself in your mind, do you look like the person in the mirror? I certainly don't. A good portrait is a beautiful thing. This may be why I find portraiture the most rewarding area of photography.'"

What artists or photographers not the scene have you been enjoying? Let us know in the comments below.

RobHeartsDH
January 21, 2014
Category: Sexuality
What's Your Daddy Fantasy?

Maybe it's the winter or grayness the season has cast, but I can't help but fantasize more during dreary weather times. Even my dreams seem to be counteracting the bundling up that these more frequent Polar Vortex's have caused with highly sexualized and fantastical night visions. Whether it's about people I know or celebrities and public figures, my dreams have been on fire lately, causing me to have lingering feelings for this special dream guest for more than just a night. Not to mention the horniness that comes (and stays) with it. So that's why I'm turning to you all to put your fantasies on display in the comments below. They can be anything from an exceptional dream (be it new or recurring), a sexual adventure you're looking to fulfill this year, or even some sort of FanFic pairing that you'd like to see played out on screen. For those of you not familiar with FanFic, it stands for Fan Fiction and it's when a viewer of a movie or TV show writes their own storyline of an already existing property and pairs two characters together. A good example would be Sherlock and Holmes, while not a sexual relationship in most portrayals, in FanFic the two would get hot and heavy and be in a gay relationship. Make sense?

Think of this open post as a fantasy free for all to express anything and everything you want. Who knows, it may catch a Daddy/Hunter's eye and turn fantasy into reality.

RobHeartsDH
January 13, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Redhead Daddy

In a gay world where preference can be mistaken (or used) for discrimination, it's important to highlight that sexiness comes in all forms. Yesterday was National Kiss a Ginger day, a light hearted "awareness day" to give redheads some much deserved love. And as evidence by model Seth Fornea above, red is hot. I wanted to take the opportunity and talk about preference. The truth is, we all have types (a good reason we're on a site called Daddyhunt), but oftentimes people mistake our preferences for being too picky or particular. In the past year, I've tried to broaden my horizons and open myself to other versions of men. I've seen success and had some fun, but in the end, I always come back to where I started. Which begs the question, what's so wrong with knowing what you want?

It can be a good thing to open yourself up to the new and often times this encounters are ripe with unexpected possibility. But I'm wondering if you come across the same kind scrutiny when you wear your preference loud and proud? Do you find that friends often push to try beyond your given type? Have you ever taken someone's preference for a different look than yours personally? Let us know in the comments below and let's talk pref.

RobHeartsDH
January 7, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Aaron Shock Gay

It's been a high profile week in outing. From Super Bowl Champ Aaron Rodgers to two (or more) alleged Hobbit stars, people seem to be breaking down closet doors that are not their own. And while it would be nice to add NFL players and a few more actors to the team roster, there's one outing in question that our community could do with out: the gay republican hypocrite. In this particular case, it's Republican Congressman Aaron Shock, who's been outed this week by noted CBS journalist Itay Hod. In a not-so-blind item on his Facebook page, he poses the question of when it's right to out someone. Citing Shock's disgraceful anti-gay voting history, he sees fit to call this gay man out for all the world to see. And I agree with Hod - if you discreetly come to our community looking for "our services" and then turn around and openly plot against us, you need to be brought down. That kind of hypocrisy should be out in the open.

There's a lot at stake when you're a public figure. In many cases, your livelihood depends on little more than your image and how the public perceives you. I would love for every closeted man to come out (public or otherwise) but understand...

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RobHeartsDH
January 2, 2014
Category: Wellness
2014 The Year of the Daddy

Resolutions come and go, but tag lines they stay with you. That's why this year, instead of making a list of things we want to change, why not create a year long thematic that will propel you through the year and keep you on track. For example, I deemed 2013 as "The Year of Change" for me on January 1, 2013. And in the span of a year the universe delivered, and then some. From moving, to getting a new job, to incredible new adventures, it was a year filled with all kinds of change - even when I wasn't actively seeking it. I not only learned the value in taking charge of my life and creating change for myself, but the beauty of accepting the things I cannot change. Because of that, 2013 was a great success. But 2014 is here, which means a new theme for a new year.

I find it easier to use this broader thematic to start with and make sure that all your actions line up to it. Whether that's creating a list of goals (not resolutions) or just checking your actions against the theme, it's an easy way to stay on track for the year and help manifest your own year long destiny.

So with that, I say to all of you out there, let's make 2014 The Year of the Daddy. I want you all to have the best year of your life and make 2014 a year to remember. Let us know in the comments below what your year long thematic will be and what you want to accomplish. Having it in writing will not only hold you accountable, but there's a surprising power in written words that tend to have magic all on their own.

Looking forward to an incredible and unforgettably blissful 2014...