RobHeartsDH
February 14, 2014
Category: Dating
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Remember when you were in grade school and had to make a Valentine for every member of your class out of construction paper? Or if you're on the Hunter side of things, maybe you had some store bought Ninja Turtle Valentine's to give away (shell puns and all). Either way, what a treat it was to receive a Valentine from someone. Personally, I prefer the old school method of cutting out hearts and creating a Valentine from scratch. The point is whether your single, single-ish, dating, or married today is a day to share some love. Sure, it's a commercialized holiday and love should be shared everyday, but all too often we find ourselves too busy to stop and appreciate those around us (romantic or otherwise). So this weekend, let's all make it a point to send some love to a daddy you admire, a friend, a family member, or even a stranger.

Remember, Cupid has got a big load today and wants to shoot all over your chest (because that's where your heart is). So let today be the day that you message someone on Daddyhunt and see what happens. Who knows by this time next year, he could be your full-time Valentine.

Let us know in the comments below your very best Valentine's Day experience or gift.

Now get with the love sending and let us know what happens!

Official Daddyhunt
January 22, 2014
Category: Entertainment
HBO's "Looking" characters Agustin Patrick and Dom

After months of anticipation, HBO’s new series “Looking” premiered this past Sunday. Reaction so far appears mixed at best, with gays either loving its “honest and realistic” portrayal of a group of twenty- and thirty- something, single gay men in San Francisco, or finding its merry band of rainbow boys and their “gay people problems” unrelatable, clichéd, and (perhaps worst of all for an HBO show) boring.

Show creators Andrew Haigh and Michael Lannan get some things right (more on that later), but just as many things wrong. Like, really wrong. Asking someone if they’re “drug- and disease-free” is, strictly Grindr-speak and unrealistic for an in-person conversation. I’m also sure all the hot, BART-riding Latino guys that have picked me up over the years knew not only how to pronounce the word “oncology” without difficulty but also knew what it meant. Cancer and oncologia are not just white-girl problems.

Minor quibbles, perhaps, for a half-hour comedy, but queens have gotten the boot from “RuPaul’s Drag Race” for far lesser offenses. That being said, “Looking” does get a few things right; namely, its honest depiction of the difficulties we have when it comes to finding our internal, moral, and sexual compasses as we make our way into adulthood.

All of us—homo and hetero alike—grow up under the influence of what society and our parents tell us, from the kind of sex we should have to the kind of relationships we should work toward. But for many gay men and women,...

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Official Daddyhunt
January 9, 2014
Category: Relationships
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Now that we've officially dubbed 2014 “The Year of the Daddy,” we hope you’re on your way to achieving the goals (don’t call them resolutions!) you’ve set for yourself to help make the next 365 days as daddylicious as they can be. Not that it’s going to be easy. Truth is, some of the biggest self-improvement promises we make to ourselves—eating better, getting in shape, building healthier relationships—are way easier said than done. But hang in there, guys, we’re gonna do our best to help you stay on track!

Okay, we can’t promise to snatch that donut out of your hand or make sure you get your butt to the gym three times a week, but if you need some advice on keeping your love life in tip-top shape, listen up! Better yet, listen to what MISTER CEO and our resident relationship expert, Carl Sandler, had to say about some of the unique challenges of daddy dating—including mismatched sex drives, uneven incomes, and dealing with disapproving family and friends—during his latest appearance on Sirius OutQ’s “The Morning Jolt with Larry Flick” radio show. Whether you’re determined to land yourself a dashing daddy, test the relationship waters with a strapping younger buck, or make your current daddy-son situation stronger in 2014, this is a must-listen.

Click the play button below to hear how it all went down. Also, be sure to check out these inspiring examples of...

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RobHeartsDH
October 3, 2013
Category: Dating
Daddy Coffee Date

With so many of our social interactions moving online these days, people seem to be of two minds about how best to proceed after the first encounter. Some like to take their time and get to know people via long messages first then progress to more tangible interactions like a phone call or meet up in real life. While others like to view a profile and set up a face to face meeting right away. There's no right or wrong way to do it, and that's the beauty of online dating: it's what you make of it.

There's something to be said for each path. On the one hand, there's a lot you can learn about a person through correspondence and I would argue that you can get a good sense of who someone is via writing. But then there's the hard truth about physical attraction and chemistry, which is only something an in person interaction can provide. It's possible a good rapport online can translate into the waking world, but it can also be a let down when you've built someone up in your mind and come to find it doesn't hold true after the first meeting. Which is why sometimes it's better to expedite things by messaging and setting up a date shortly after. You can learn fairly quickly if you're interested in someone over a quick, pressure-free coffee date

But we want to hear from all of you: do you prefer the long lead messaging or are you more of immediate offliner?

RobHeartsDH
October 3, 2013
Category: Dating
Daddy Coffee Date

With so many of our social interactions moving online these days, people seem to be of two minds about how best to proceed after the first encounter. Some like to take their time and get to know people via long messages first then progress to more tangible interactions like a phone call or meet up in real life. While others like to view a profile and set up a face to face meeting right away. There's no right or wrong way to do it, and that's the beauty of online dating: it's what you make of it.

There's something to be said for each path. On the one hand, there's a lot you can learn about a person through correspondence and I would argue that you can get a good sense of who someone is via writing. But then there's the hard truth about physical attraction and chemistry, which is only something an in person interaction can provide. It's possible a good rapport online can translate into the waking world, but it can also be a let down when you've built someone up in your mind and come to find it doesn't hold true after the first meeting. Which is why sometimes it's better to expedite things by messaging and setting up a date shortly after. You can learn fairly quickly if you're interested in someone over a quick, pressure-free coffee date

But we want to hear from all of you: do you prefer the long lead messaging or are you more of immediate offliner?

RobHeartsDH
March 25, 2013
Category: Relationships
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It’s bad enough sometimes competing with single friends when landing a man, but what happens when you’re forced to compete with your coupled friends as well ? With gay relationships becoming more and more fluid and open about their, well, openness it’s put an interesting quandary at the center of gay friendships: who gets first dibs? As a single man myself, I’m obliged to take the single man’s position first and foremost, which is to say coupled friends should always yield to their single friends. The truth of the matter is, singles shouldn't have to compete with their boyfriended friends for other single guys even if it ends up just being a hook up. With two single guys, there will always be potential for more and that alone should inspire the coupled friend to back off. Open relationships, seeking a third or seeking to play alone, should really only be looking for something supplement to their, what should already be, stable and healthy relationship. Looking for something more sometimes means looking for trouble.

Then again, if it were two single friends competing for the same man’s attention, it would seem that all’s fair in love and war. As I try to look at things from all angles, my only understanding of how a case could be made for the couple is if the object in pursuit chooses the couple over the single. Which is to say, they’re not into you and are looking for some threesome fun. This whole scenario is based off of friendship, so really if you’re a good friend it would make sense that you’d want to offer the singletons every possibility afforded to them...

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RobHeartsDH
February 25, 2013
Category: Dating
Dating Priorities list gay

What's the first quality you look for in a man? Is it physical attraction or a trait that takes a bit more digging? It's so easy to go on looks alone these days with online dating/apps expediting the selection process and courtship a thing of the past. It's almost like we're programmed to make a split section decision on what we see in front of us and if we're not into it we move onto the next. Having more options is a great thing, but as with any give, the take is that we may miss something really special. Getting to know someone takes effort and the things that ultimately make a relationship work aren't always visually apparent. So what's one to do? Rearrange our priorities.

I'll be honest, my first instinct is to start chatting with someone (on here or in real life) if I'm attracted to them. But when I think about what I'm looking for in a relationship, looks fall down the list quite a bit. Now I'm not saying I don't need to be attracted to someone, because that's mega important, but I've realized that attraction can grow and fade based on feelings that stem from incredible personality traits like humor and intelligence. The problem I think many of us face today is that we're not willing to put in the work to get to know someone. It's easier to take the Seinfeldian approach and dismiss people based on circumstantial flaws, not meeting a height requirement, or any other molehill made mountainous. But finding a really stand up guy takes work and time. And it's those qualities buried deep that usually last the longest, because as we all know, looks fade.

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RobHeartsDH
February 25, 2013
Category: Dating
Dating Priorities list gay

What's the first quality you look for in a man? Is it physical attraction or a trait that takes a bit more digging? It's so easy to go on looks alone these days with online dating/apps expediting the selection process and courtship a thing of the past. It's almost like we're programmed to make a split section decision on what we see in front of us and if we're not into it we move onto the next. Having more options is a great thing, but as with any give, the take is that we may miss something really special. Getting to know someone takes effort and the things that ultimately make a relationship work aren't always visually apparent. So what's one to do? Rearrange our priorities.

I'll be honest, my first instinct is to start chatting with someone (on here or in real life) if I'm attracted to them. But when I think about what I'm looking for in a relationship, looks fall down the list quite a bit. Now I'm not saying I don't need to be attracted to someone, because that's mega important, but I've realized that attraction can grow and fade based on feelings that stem from incredible personality traits like humor and intelligence. The problem I think many of us face today is that we're not willing to put in the work to get to know someone. It's easier to take the Seinfeldian approach and dismiss people based on circumstantial flaws, not meeting a height requirement, or any other molehill made mountainous. But finding a really stand up guy takes work and time. And it's those qualities buried deep that usually last the longest, because as we all know, looks fade.

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RobHeartsDH
November 16, 2012
Category: Dating
gay bears romantic

Raise your hand if you're a fan of therapy. Don't be embarrassed. Raise them up. Personally, I think everyone on the planet should be in therapy. But that's never going to happen. Truth be told, there are plenty of people out there who are in therapy and are still fucked up and fucking up others lives. But for many, it can help you gain control of your life an relationships in ways you never thought possible. Whether you believe in the practice or not, these professional do know people. And in knowing people they know what it takes to make a good relationship. This list of the 10 characteristics of successful relationships from therapist and author Lisa Kift is particularly useful when evaluating your own relationships:

1) Friendship: Couples who have a strong friendship have staying power. They not only love each other but genuinely like each other as people. They enjoy hanging out together. They might even consider each other their “best friend.”

2) Humor: Partners who can make each other laugh tend to be good at de-escalating conflicts when they do arise. It’s the great mood lightener. I’ve noticed the use of funny nicknames can be an indicator of great fondness for one another. The names often stem from a “you had to be there” moment from the beginning of their relationship.

3) Communication: As obvious as this may seem, many couples are not very good at it. Those who are able to openly...

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RobHeartsDH
October 15, 2012
Category: Dating
Just friends chart

"I still hope we can be friends." Famous last words after you've had your heart broken. And whether they mean it or not, it's an interesting choice that we're all presented with. The decision of course is relative to each and every relationship. It might depend on how long you've been together, how bad the breakup was, and ultimately, time. For many it's hard to switch off your feelings and dive straight into a friendship. On the other hand, it can be a seamless transition if both parties romantic feelings have mutually dissolved. But usually that's not the case, and when a heart breaks they don't break even. For me, if friendship is truly something you want after a break up, "out of sight, out of mind" has always been the best course of action. To reset and recalibrate your feelings from romantic to friendly, time and distance help to heal things quicker. It's when friendship is pushed so soon after that things start to get messy and awkward. And depending on how badly you've been hurt, those wounds need time to heal. And every attempt at being with your former lover without being able to hold them or kiss them or touch them just makes the hurt sting that much more. But the good news is, that if friendship is truly in the cards it can be something quite beautiful down the line. After all, any relationship worth having should have friendship at it's core and intimacy shared is something that's never really lost.

Have you been able to be friends with your exes? And if so, how soon after? What helped you move forward as friends?