RobHeartsDH
March 6, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
MISTER Carl Sandler HuffPost Live

Is there a difference between a midlife crisis and a gay midlife crisis? That's the question they're asking over at HuffPost Live with our very own CEO Carl Sandler, Marcie Blanco, and Steven Petrow who wrote the book Complete Gay Manners weighing in on the discussion. Watch the video below and see where you stand on the subject:

While I can't claim to be midlife just yet, from my perspective I've seen more gay men come into their own at 40 and beyond and really own who are they are. They seem to get better looking, confident, and just generally more in touch with themselves and the world. Maybe in the straight world getting in better shape and taking better care of yourself causes an alarm of sorts to go off, but seems like par for the course in our community. If anything, I admire the qualities normally associated with a midlife crisis which essentially is trying something new and revamping your life as you fit later in the game.

Have you or someone you know experienced a gay (or plain ol') midlife crisis? If so, tell us how it went down and if you think it's different for gays vs. straights in the comments below.

Official Daddyhunt
February 11, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Advanced Tie Knots for Gay Men

One of the great things about being a gay daddy is having the ability to throw down some knowledge at a moment’s notice and show those younger guys a thing or two about the power of experience. Things like telling a great story about a memorable moment in history, or offering words of relationship wisdom to someone who hasn’t lived long enough to have been around the block a few times. But by far one of our favorite things is teaching the twink set some tricks that are a bit more practical: like how to tie a tie, for instance. It’s a skill every good daddy should know! Brush up on your tying technique with the help of these helpful videos, featuring all kinds of classic knots as well as a few we’ve never seen before. (Bonus: they work just as well on a bedpost as they do around your neck!)

Have any good tips of your own? School us in the comments section!

1. The Eldredge Knot

2. The Trinity Knot

3. The Cape Knot

4. The Four-In-Hand Knot 

5. The Merovingian...

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Official MISTER
February 4, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Founding Fathers: David Kopay

If you’re a football fanatic (or just like watching beefy athletes in Spandex pat each other on the butt), chances are things got a little rowdy in your living room as you watched the Seattle Seahawks take on the Denver Broncos in this year’s Super Bowl. But no matter how raucous the hooting and hollering got over bad calls, botched plays, and, of course, those crazy commercials, it still paled in comparison to the uproar that was heard from football fans back in 1975, when retired gridiron great David Kopay told a newspaper reporter something no other professional athlete had ever said before: “I’m gay.”

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The pigskin hit the fan. Back then, the idea that a macho, muscled football hero who was named an All-American running back and had played for five NFL teams, including Vince Lombardi’s legendary Washington Redskins lineup, was unthinkable. Outraged fans flooded the newspaper that published the story with hate mail, Kopay’s post-retirement football opportunities evaporated overnight, and his former coaches and teammates all but abandoned him.

But the deafening reaction to Kopay’s historic coming-out confession was about to get even louder....

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Official Daddyhunt
January 29, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
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It's no secret we've got a bit of a sweet tooth when it comes to checking out hot gay Instagram daddies, so when we’re in need of some serious eye candy, we love to fire up MISTER's Instagram and let the good times scroll. While our visual feasts are usually fast and furious affairs, we  recently stumbled across one user's picture page—@BenSmales—that was full of so many yummy images, we couldn't hit the "Follow" button fast enough.

Look! There's Ben in a Speedo lounging poolside with his friends in Palm Springs. There's Ben showing off his six-pack (or is that an eight-pack!?) in the gym locker room. There's Ben heading to The Pines on the Fire Island ferry. So who is this bearded, bronzed beauty with the semi-charmed life? And who is that woof-worthy daddy he's always hanging around with? Turns out big Ben makes his living peddling sexy snapshots, and that dashing daddy is his husband, famed photographer Tom Bianchi (we thought he looked familiar!). Together, these guys with no selfie control are developing into one of the hottest daddy-son duos around.

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Bianchi, one of the biggest names in male erotic photography, met Smales,...

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Official MISTER
January 16, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Founding Fathers: Alan Turing

From email to Amazon to XTube to reading the blog you're on right now, computers have become so essential to our day-to-day that it’s rather mind-boggling to imagine life without them. So, who exactly do we have to thank for this game-changing gadget? Bill Gates? Good guess. Steve Jobs? Think again. The actual man credited with inventing this game-changing gadget is the original tech titan of the 20th century (and this week’s Gay Founding Father), British mathematician Alan Turing.

Born in London in 1912, Turing’s early years appeared to follow the standard narrative of the classic overachiever—academically driven, introverted (a chronic stuttering condition often left him feeling self-conscious), head constantly buried in a book. But by the time he became a teenager, it was clear this smartypants was something special. His remarkable ability for picking up and deciphering advanced mathematical and scientific concepts (even without ever having formally studied them) attracted attention, and upon graduation, he enrolled at the prestigious King’s College at Cambridge University, where he gained first-class honors in mathematics.

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His intellectual acuity in...

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Official MISTER
January 16, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Founding Fathers: Alan Turing

From email to Amazon to XTube to reading the blog you're on right now, computers have become so essential to our day-to-day that it’s rather mind-boggling to imagine life without them. So, who exactly do we have to thank for this game-changing gadget? Bill Gates? Good guess. Steve Jobs? Think again. The actual man credited with inventing this game-changing gadget is the original tech titan of the 20th century (and this week’s Gay Founding Father), British mathematician Alan Turing.

Born in London in 1912, Turing’s early years appeared to follow the standard narrative of the classic overachiever—academically driven, introverted (a chronic stuttering condition often left him feeling self-conscious), head constantly buried in a book. But by the time he became a teenager, it was clear this smartypants was something special. His remarkable ability for picking up and deciphering advanced mathematical and scientific concepts (even without ever having formally studied them) attracted attention, and upon graduation, he enrolled at the prestigious King’s College at Cambridge University, where he gained first-class honors in mathematics.

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His intellectual acuity in...

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RobHeartsDH
January 13, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Redhead Daddy

In a gay world where preference can be mistaken (or used) for discrimination, it's important to highlight that sexiness comes in all forms. Yesterday was National Kiss a Ginger day, a light hearted "awareness day" to give redheads some much deserved love. And as evidence by model Seth Fornea above, red is hot. I wanted to take the opportunity and talk about preference. The truth is, we all have types (a good reason we're on a site called Daddyhunt), but oftentimes people mistake our preferences for being too picky or particular. In the past year, I've tried to broaden my horizons and open myself to other versions of men. I've seen success and had some fun, but in the end, I always come back to where I started. Which begs the question, what's so wrong with knowing what you want?

It can be a good thing to open yourself up to the new and often times this encounters are ripe with unexpected possibility. But I'm wondering if you come across the same kind scrutiny when you wear your preference loud and proud? Do you find that friends often push to try beyond your given type? Have you ever taken someone's preference for a different look than yours personally? Let us know in the comments below and let's talk pref.

RobHeartsDH
January 7, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Aaron Shock Gay

It's been a high profile week in outing. From Super Bowl Champ Aaron Rodgers to two (or more) alleged Hobbit stars, people seem to be breaking down closet doors that are not their own. And while it would be nice to add NFL players and a few more actors to the team roster, there's one outing in question that our community could do with out: the gay republican hypocrite. In this particular case, it's Republican Congressman Aaron Shock, who's been outed this week by noted CBS journalist Itay Hod. In a not-so-blind item on his Facebook page, he poses the question of when it's right to out someone. Citing Shock's disgraceful anti-gay voting history, he sees fit to call this gay man out for all the world to see. And I agree with Hod - if you discreetly come to our community looking for "our services" and then turn around and openly plot against us, you need to be brought down. That kind of hypocrisy should be out in the open.

There's a lot at stake when you're a public figure. In many cases, your livelihood depends on little more than your image and how the public perceives you. I would love for every closeted man to come out (public or otherwise) but understand...

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Official Daddyhunt
December 13, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Famous Gay Daddy Son Relationships

A few weeks ago, we had some fun telling you about a few of our favorite Gay Daddy-Son Relationships That Shocked the World. All this talk about Tom Daley and Justin Lance Black pairing up made us want to highlight three inspiring cross-generational couples who prove that when it comes to May-December loving, age ain't nothing but a number.

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Christopher Isherwood 
and Don Bachardy
Life wasn’t always a cabaret for esteemed British novelist Christopher Isherwood, whose semi-autobiographical tales of a closeted gay man living in pre-Nazi Germany were collected in the best-selling book The Berlin Stories, but that all changed when he met 18-year-old Don Bachardy on a Santa Monica beach in 1952. Despite their 30-year age difference—not to mention it being the era of McCarthyism, one of the most homophobic periods in American history—the pair began a high-profile love affair that would last more than three decades. While their relationship was idyllic in many ways, with Isherwood helping his younger lover develop his affinity for drawing and painting and the couple frequently entertaining well-known artists, writers, and movie stars in their hillside Santa Monica home, it wasn’t always without its...

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RobHeartsDH
December 9, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Tom and Dustin

When super hottie Olympic diver Tom Daley announced he was dating a dude, it only took about a day or two for reporters to discover that the dude in question was Oscar winning writer Dustin Lance Black. After the initial shock and delight wore off, many people turned to the fact that Tom, 19, was dating someone 20 years his senior. Maybe it's because public outings are more mainstream these days, but there seemed to be an unfavorable reaction to the age gap. I call out the mainstream factor because amongst the gay community most men understand that age differences in our world are fairly common and mostly accepted. We've discussed at length on this blog the uniting bonds of coming out and being a minority which can oftentimes grant a strong foundation for older-young relationships, but it seems that there's still a bit of taboo when it comes to May-December romances. I'd venture to say many of those negative reactions stem from jealously that Tom Daley can't be theirs, but it does bring up an interesting topic regarding the mainstreaming of gay culture.

The Huffington Post is on the same page as us, but I'm wondering: outside of the gay community (or in) have you experienced negative reactions to dating...

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