RobHeartsDH
February 17, 2014
Category: Sexuality
Animals

Not to be a downer, but more and more I feel like open relationships are an inevitability. I've let go of the dream of soul mates and falling in love forever, but I think I may need to let go of the dream of monogamy too. It's not that it can't happen, but it just doesn't seem like we're programmed that way. It'll take some recalibrating on my generations part, but maybe it'll be easier if it's taught at a younger age. There certainly would be less disappointment. I guess I've always been curious about sexuality from a primal perspective. What are our natural instincts? What are we internally programmed to want and do? When you remove societal pressures and norms, were we really ever supposed to mate for life?

It's not a lot, but this video at least debunks the theory that much of the animal kingdom mates for life and that it's not just a human thing to do:

Animals aside, what are your thoughts on monogamy? Do you think it's possible to be monogamous and still be satisfied? Let us know in the comments below.

Official Daddyhunt
January 9, 2014
Category: Relationships
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Now that we've officially dubbed 2014 “The Year of the Daddy,” we hope you’re on your way to achieving the goals (don’t call them resolutions!) you’ve set for yourself to help make the next 365 days as daddylicious as they can be. Not that it’s going to be easy. Truth is, some of the biggest self-improvement promises we make to ourselves—eating better, getting in shape, building healthier relationships—are way easier said than done. But hang in there, guys, we’re gonna do our best to help you stay on track!

Okay, we can’t promise to snatch that donut out of your hand or make sure you get your butt to the gym three times a week, but if you need some advice on keeping your love life in tip-top shape, listen up! Better yet, listen to what MISTER CEO and our resident relationship expert, Carl Sandler, had to say about some of the unique challenges of daddy dating—including mismatched sex drives, uneven incomes, and dealing with disapproving family and friends—during his latest appearance on Sirius OutQ’s “The Morning Jolt with Larry Flick” radio show. Whether you’re determined to land yourself a dashing daddy, test the relationship waters with a strapping younger buck, or make your current daddy-son situation stronger in 2014, this is a must-listen.

Click the play button below to hear how it all went down. Also, be sure to check out these inspiring examples of...

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Official Daddyhunt
December 13, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Famous Gay Daddy Son Relationships

A few weeks ago, we had some fun telling you about a few of our favorite Gay Daddy-Son Relationships That Shocked the World. All this talk about Tom Daley and Justin Lance Black pairing up made us want to highlight three inspiring cross-generational couples who prove that when it comes to May-December loving, age ain't nothing but a number.

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Christopher Isherwood 
and Don Bachardy
Life wasn’t always a cabaret for esteemed British novelist Christopher Isherwood, whose semi-autobiographical tales of a closeted gay man living in pre-Nazi Germany were collected in the best-selling book The Berlin Stories, but that all changed when he met 18-year-old Don Bachardy on a Santa Monica beach in 1952. Despite their 30-year age difference—not to mention it being the era of McCarthyism, one of the most homophobic periods in American history—the pair began a high-profile love affair that would last more than three decades. While their relationship was idyllic in many ways, with Isherwood helping his younger lover develop his affinity for drawing and painting and the couple frequently entertaining well-known artists, writers, and movie stars in their hillside Santa Monica home, it wasn’t always without its...

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Official Daddyhunt
September 20, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
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All relationships are complicated, perhaps none more so than those between daddies and their younger paramours. We’ve heard it from many of you firsthand: from finances to mismatched sex drives to having to deal with total strangers (or worse, family and friends) giving you and your stud the side eye when you walk down the street, Daddy-Son relationships bring a whole host of unique challenges and relationship issues. They can also be some of the best, fieriest, and most fulfilling relationships around. But when they fizzle, you’d best believe the sparks will fly! Just for fun, we’ve cherry-picked a few of the most notorious and talked-about Daddy-Son relationships the world has ever witnessed. Consider them cautionary tales when it comes to May-December romancing. And count your blessings you weren’t involved in any of them.

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Calvin Klein and Nick Gruber

Calvin Klein is infamous for raising temperatures with his racy ad campaigns, but it was his relationship with army soldier turned gay porn model Nick Gruber, 47 years his junior, that had his friends and fans raising their eyebrows. The 70-year-old fashion designer was reportedly so smitten with the then-19-year-old Gruber after seeing a picture of him posing in nothing but a green jacket (as a nude model, Gruber went under the name Aaron Skyline) that he launched a full-blown sugar-daddy assault on the young man, moving him into a multi-million-dollar New York City apartment, giving him a...

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RobHeartsDH
July 8, 2013
Category: Relationships
Gay Men Relationship Status

Has this ever happened to you: meet a guy, flirt a bunch, exchange numbers, make plans to meet...and then find out he has a boyfriend. Sadly, it happens more than it should. With couples in different arrangements and singles with different objectives navigating the pick up water can be difficult. I'm of the belief that if there's clear interest from one party, the other is obligated to bring up the boyfriend (in some way) within the first interaction. I'll even give a little leeway here and say the first two interactions given how hard it can be to weave that point in naturally. In chatting with some coupled friends though, they believe that they're not obligated to reveal a boyfriend. Claiming that they've often been met with attitude or anger in the assumption that they were even hitting on them and that often times conversations are struck up for the sake of conversation and/or friendship. We decided that there's no hard and fast rule when it comes to this, but that it really should be a case be case basis. That being said, I still believe that it should be worked in fairly early on to set the stage of the forthcoming interactions.

But what say you, how soon in should a person reveal their relationship status?

RobHeartsDH
June 6, 2013
Category: Wellness
Allure of the Heterosexual Man

Picture a tall, beefy, Jake Gyllenhaal. I've seen this vision every morning at my gym for the past few weeks. Massive arms, massive back, hairy chest, stomach, and a clean cut look to balance it all out. I knew he was straight when I first saw him, but that didn't stop me from striking up a conversation with him about what he was lifting. I figured, maybe, just maybe, I was wrong and he was just shy. Unfortunately for me, we started chatting, he smiled, and that's when I full on fell in love/melted into this meat head. The problem is, he's still straight and there's absolutely no chance that'll change in the near future/ever. And yet, I still find myself lost in the fantasy that every time he works out near me that may change. What is it about straight guys that makes them so damn attractive?

Well, for one they're unattainable. Issue a challenge to any man, gay or straight, and see how hard they fight to win. Then you've got the raw masculinity that so many of these straights exude. Not all, but many. And in a gay world where so many are seeking out "masc" men there's something inherently appealing about a man who need not be questioned about it. Then of course there are the millions upon millions of porn fantasies that have been put upon us all, whether it be a locker room, frat house, or bait and switch scene, a straight guy's first time is just fucking hot.

But the reality is, just as there's no hope any of us will switch teams, you're looking at a dead end. No matter how many beers you fill them with, the challenges that follow wouldn't be easy....

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RobHeartsDH
May 6, 2013
Category: Relationships
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I’m all about giving people a chance. Things happen, people have off days, and I guess at the very core of it, I believe that people are inherently good. But at a certain point, no matter how badly you want something to work, you’ve got to put you first. How many times have you given someone you're dating a pass or two when they’ve done something you don’t agree with? Whether it’s calling you back, blowing off plans, or even cheating on you, there are a lot of red flags that we all seem to easily forgive. Once forgiven, it sends a pretty clear message that it’s acceptable behavior and that there’s a lack of respect that will ultimately play a larger role in the relationship. Now I’m talking about the very minor to the very major when it comes to the types of things that we’re all willing to accept, but they all yield similar results.

A friend of mine recently showed up for a date in which the man he was seeing showed up with two unexpected friends. But instead of staying and being part of a date night that was not what he had in mind, he simply told the guy that this wasn’t what he envisioned and that he was going to head home. My initial response was that my friend overreacted and his actions were a little extreme. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized how it important it is to be clear about what you’re looking for, what you want, and what you’re willing to accept. And you know what? The guy called him later that night to apologize and realized that he wasn’t being very respectful of their original plans.

It’s no big secret that I’ve been...

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April 15, 2013
Category: Relationships
MISTER Carl Sandler on Sirius XM Radio

A friend in need is a friend indeed, especially when it’s 2:00 in the morning, you’re horny, and that friend lives just 5 minutes away. Hey, we’re all about friends with benefits, but what if those perks involved more than just a post-shag baby wipe and a pat on the butt as you headed out the door to go back home? You know, real benefits, like engaging conversation, shared interests, and a shoulder to lean on when you’re down in the dumps?

Sounds great, right? Unfortunately, for many of us, those types of relationships just don’t exist. Let's face it, as gay men, we live in a culture where making “friends” means firing up an app, “networking” is code for getting naked, and hooking up is the new handshake—all of which make it difficult to cultivate deep and meaningful friendships with one another that aren’t rooted in sexual attraction or superficiality. The truth is we need to have these friendships, especially as we get older, but in this age of instant gratification, are we willing to buddy up with someone we don’t want to sleep with?

The answer is yes—that is, if you’re willing to make the effort. In his latest appearance on Sirius OutQ’s “The Morning Jolt” radio show, our resident den daddy, MISTER CEO Carl Sandler, sat down with host Larry Flick to talk about the importance of friendships and offered up some tried-and-true tips on how you can develop them, deepen them, and put them to bed (pun intended!) when they’re not working for you.

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RobHeartsDH
March 27, 2013
Category: Relationships
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As the Supreme Court review marriage equality cases for Prop 8 and DOMA this week, the world as we know it could change in an instant. The right to marry came to the state of New York a little over a year and a half ago and in that time I've been to 2 gay weddings with 4 more on the way between now and September. With the exception of one, all of these couples have been together for more than 5 years, so it makes sense that they'd be eager to make it official as soon as allowed. With the possibility of federal rights and marriage for all, we could see an even bigger onslaught of weddings in the next few years. Which means, you better start saving up. Not for your wedding. For the gifts. Most of us experienced the wedding rush in and our 20s and 30s as all our friends got married, but now there's a new wave of weddings coming. If only there was a way to rollout the weddings so we wouldn't be bombarded with them all at once. But considering how long it's taken to get here, these loving couples shouldn't have to wait any longer. So bring it on I say. Just don't expect anything fancy in the gift department.

Couples in states that can't marry, if marriage equality passes, will you get married right away or wait a few years?

RobHeartsDH
March 25, 2013
Category: Relationships
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It’s bad enough sometimes competing with single friends when landing a man, but what happens when you’re forced to compete with your coupled friends as well ? With gay relationships becoming more and more fluid and open about their, well, openness it’s put an interesting quandary at the center of gay friendships: who gets first dibs? As a single man myself, I’m obliged to take the single man’s position first and foremost, which is to say coupled friends should always yield to their single friends. The truth of the matter is, singles shouldn't have to compete with their boyfriended friends for other single guys even if it ends up just being a hook up. With two single guys, there will always be potential for more and that alone should inspire the coupled friend to back off. Open relationships, seeking a third or seeking to play alone, should really only be looking for something supplement to their, what should already be, stable and healthy relationship. Looking for something more sometimes means looking for trouble.

Then again, if it were two single friends competing for the same man’s attention, it would seem that all’s fair in love and war. As I try to look at things from all angles, my only understanding of how a case could be made for the couple is if the object in pursuit chooses the couple over the single. Which is to say, they’re not into you and are looking for some threesome fun. This whole scenario is based off of friendship, so really if you’re a good friend it would make sense that you’d want to offer the singletons every possibility afforded to them...

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