Sexuality Posts

It can be pretty mind blowing when you sync up with someone your dating or hooking up with sexually. For all the variable that go into the relationship equation, when 2 bodies together equal great sex, I'd call that a big win. Everyone brings something different to the sexual table, whether that's giving good head, good rim jobs, or being one hell of a great kisser, and this is when we can take these superlative studs and learn from them. After all sexual exploration is all about experience and gaining knowledge about what you like/don't like and learning new techniques. I would say of all the reasons to have an open relationship, bringing home something new to your skill set is one of the least discussed. And it can do wonders for your sex life. Even as a singleton, when you find someone who's the best at what they do, it can be life changing. It had been a while since I had a great kisser in my life and recently dated someone that reminded me of how good it can be when lips works together to make magic.

But now I want to open the floor to all of you, think of the comments as a sales floor and sell us on your best sexual skill set is. Or tell us a tale of the best you've ever had below.

Money for sex has been around since the beginning of time. It's one of those fun facts that pop up at bars and parties: prostitution being the world's oldest profession. I was recently talking to a friend who's an escort and he was lamenting how hard it is to find someone to date given his line of work. We talked about it at length citing all the reasons it could be a problem for someone: jealousy issues, judgmental friends and family, safety, etc. But even today and with how open and configurable relationships and minds can be, it still seems like dating a sex worker can be a little taboo. I'm curious, what people's thoughts on the matter are. For the purposes of this conversation, let's use the word "sex worker" as a catchall for hookers, escorts, and porn stars. I add porn stars because while we all have fantasies about them, I wonder how okay everyone is with actually dating one. It may come down to something as simple as, I need someone who's got a 9 to 5 job - but what if they do? I think it's easy to write sex workers off as lacking substance, but I know plenty with brains, grace, and heart that lead pretty normal lives. And it's my belief that no one on this earth is any position to judge so what's the big deal?

Here's a few questions for you that should incite some lively conversations in the comments below. Feel free to answer any and all that you're comfortable with:

1. Would/Have you ever date/d a sex worker? If so, what was your experience.
2. Would/Have you ever pay/paid for sex or company? If so, what was your experience.

I have a friend who yells at me every time he smells me. He prefers I let my natural scent run free instead of wearing a scented deodorant. The problem is, I get pretty darn stinky when I don't wear it. But I get where he's coming from, as I too enjoy the nice natural scent of man. Apparently the straight world is getting in on the pheromone fun too. So let's open up the discussion, do you prefer your men fragrance free or like them synthetically scented?

I will say one thing, when it comes to licking pits, freshly washed is the only way to go. Whether it's deodorant in your mouth or the stank that sticks to your tongue, it makes for a mouthful of yuck.

There really haven't been any new developments in the past century when it comes to masturbation. Maybe lube was an exciting discovery, but before that there was spit. Bottom line is, the one or two handed wank is a pretty easy endeavor and get's the job done. Most would say, "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." And I would agree, but I'd like to think that even with an age old practice like jerking off there's still room for improvement. Yes, there are Fleshlights and they're a helluva lot of fun, but they're also a bit of a process. I guess what I'm getting at is that for the day to day strokey stroke, there's really nothing new. Enter the JackStrap (NSFW), a little pliable device that let's you give your balls a tug while you work your shaft (click through to see how it works). Just this morning I was doing my thing and thinking to myself how much I enjoy cupping my balls while I do it (true story). So for the timing alone on coming across this, color me interested. I am a little worried about how hard it will pull and how tight it will be, but I would give it a try just to spice up my usual self stimulating routine.

What do your twig and berries have to say about this? Is an additional tool for your tool needed or should we just keep things simple?

Wax on below.