RobHeartsDH
March 24, 2014
Category: Wellness
Daddy Decades

As I enter a new decade of my life, I've been reflecting a lot of what I've learned in my 20s. On the one hand, it makes sense that I've learned lesson, grown, and matured into a stronger man. But it actually wasn't until I was speaking with an intern who was just entering his 20s that I realized just how much knowledge I had accumulated and could pass along. Which got me thinking what an incredible resource we all our for each other when it comes to life lessons being shared. Of course it's a much easier to learn when you've experienced something first hand, but a little empathy along the way can make you feel less alone during those tougher times. Which is why I thought it'd be a fun little crowd-sourcing experiment to compile all our our collective wisdom into one post. I want each and every one of you out there to tell us a defining lesson of each decade you've lived starting with your 20s. So for example if you're 62 you'd have a lesson from your 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s for us. Feel free to list one from each or a select few, just as long as you contribute.

With enough submission, I'll take the very best of the lessons and cull them down into one post. There's so much we can learn from one another and many benefits that we can pass along from our mistakes, experiences, and interactions.

Bonus points for listing which decade you learned the most in.

RobHeartsDH
January 2, 2014
Category: Wellness
2014 The Year of the Daddy

Resolutions come and go, but tag lines they stay with you. That's why this year, instead of making a list of things we want to change, why not create a year long thematic that will propel you through the year and keep you on track. For example, I deemed 2013 as "The Year of Change" for me on January 1, 2013. And in the span of a year the universe delivered, and then some. From moving, to getting a new job, to incredible new adventures, it was a year filled with all kinds of change - even when I wasn't actively seeking it. I not only learned the value in taking charge of my life and creating change for myself, but the beauty of accepting the things I cannot change. Because of that, 2013 was a great success. But 2014 is here, which means a new theme for a new year.

I find it easier to use this broader thematic to start with and make sure that all your actions line up to it. Whether that's creating a list of goals (not resolutions) or just checking your actions against the theme, it's an easy way to stay on track for the year and help manifest your own year long destiny.

So with that, I say to all of you out there, let's make 2014 The Year of the Daddy. I want you all to have the best year of your life and make 2014 a year to remember. Let us know in the comments below what your year long thematic will be and what you want to accomplish. Having it in writing will not only hold you accountable, but there's a surprising power in written words that tend to have magic all on their own.

Looking forward to an incredible and unforgettably blissful 2014...

RobHeartsDH
November 25, 2013
Category: Wellness
Gay Thanksgiving

It's almost that time of year here in the states. The time when we think about all that we're thankful for: Thanksgiving! Our friends, our family, food, shelter, water - we sit down to appreciate all the good stuff. But this year, I'm tasking us all with thinking about the bad things that we should be thankful for and flipping the script a little bit. Because let's be honest, without the bad there can't be good. It's important to acknowledge both sides to really truly be grateful for what you have. For instance, I'm truly thankful that I got my heart broken a year ago because it ultimately led to me the best year of my life so far. I'm also grateful for the weight I gained recently as it's been the only thing to motivate me back to the gym to get into the best shape of my life. See? There's plenty of seemingly bad that can be used for good. In either reflection or goal setting looking at the bad things can make you appreciate what you have more and/or be an incredible incentive to change things for the better.

So this year, when you sit down to give thanks, think about the bad things to be grateful for. And in the meantime tell us about them in the comments below.

RobHeartsDH
September 10, 2013
Category: Wellness
Older Gay

Whether you're a 20-something or 70-something there's one thing we all have in common: we're getting older. Year after year, decade after decade, we find ourselves getting closer towards whatever it is that's waiting for us at the end. As our bodies start to show more and more proof of living (hello wrinkles! oh hey gray!), it becomes all too apparent that there's no escaping the aging process. And in a youth obsessed culture, that can be a frightening thing. Whether it's purely superficial or on a deeper level of accomplishment, looking at what the future holds is something we have to face head on.

When we're young it seems like we can't wait to grow up. But even with that eagerness to be an adult, fears still abound when it comes to getting on in our years. Similarly, when you've reached a certain age, you can find yourself wistful about your youth, not really realizing what a better place your in with time, experience, and perspective. Over at The Advocate they've got a new column called Prim Timers that focuses on the LGBT community over 65 and how life can be lived at any age. They've got plenty of great content over there from stories to film recommendations all that showcase lives well lived.

I'm of the belief that as a community we can collectively debunk the myth that the best of your gay days are before 40. Working for Daddyhunt all these years, I've talked to a bunch of happy, enthusiastic...

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Official Daddyhunt
September 4, 2013
Category: Wellness
Mature Daddies Gay Beards Grooming Tips Best Products

Having a beard doesn't make you a daddy (case in point), but being a daddy definitely makes having a beard look so much better. Maybe it's the way the ability to grow full-blown facial hair instantly separates the men from the boys. Or the way a man's willingness to sprout some stubble tells us he isn't afraid to make a statement. Or that part of the reason a beard looks so right on a mature man is because he's earned the right to wear it. Oh, heck, maybe we just have a thing for lumberjacks. The point is, we love guys with beards—the thicker and fuller the better!—and with fall right around the corner, we expect to be seeing a lot more of them in the coming months. But there's a fine line between looking honorably hirsute and hair-raisingly horrifying. Whether you're starting from scratch, growing it out, or are already a world-class whisker man, we've compiled five awesome products and few insider tips to help keep your hairy mug in check and looking hot.

 

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Step 1: Trim

Looking like a rugged wilderness man might be the goal, but that doesn't mean looking like you stepped out of The Call of the Wild. Keeping your facial hair even and well-groomed starts with having the proper trimming and sculpting tools, whether it be scissors, a straight razor, or an electric clipper. We love this ...

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RobHeartsDH
September 3, 2013
Category: Wellness
Daddy Dreams

At 64 and without a shark cage, Diana Nyad swam 110 miles from Cuba to Florida. What have you done today?

For 35 years and after 4 previous attempts, she emerged victorious from the water with a message: “One is we should never, ever give up. Two is you never are too old to chase your dreams. Three is it looks like a solitary sport, but it takes a team.” All too often, we put a pre-mature expiration dates on our dreams because society gives us the illusion that after a certain age things can't be done. But the reality is, and what Diana reminds us all, is that with passion, determination, and hard work incredible things can happen at any age. It may all sound hokey, but with a timely example like this in the headlines, it's living proof that we should swing for the fences always.

What goals or dreams have you given up on due to age? Maybe it's time to revisit them...

RobHeartsDH
August 13, 2013
Category: Wellness
Gay Daddy Work Life

As gay men we live pretty active lives. Lives that are as diverse as the community of which we're a part. Many of us strive for success in every aspect of our everyday existence, but finding the right balance between those aspects can get tricky. I imagine a good portion of you are focused on meeting the right guy. For others, meeting someone is just a flicker of a thought because work takes up all of your time. It's not always easy to create a life where both work and relationships have equal footing. This is especially true when you break things down by age bracket. Perhaps in your early 20s you partied hard and creating a successful career was something that could be started in your 30s. Or maybe it's the exact opposite and you were driven in your 20s and 30s to get to the top, only to find yourself in your 40s with a comfortable lifestyle and no one to share it with. Either way, finding the right mix of these crucial components is key.

Sometimes it's not even in our control. I've met plenty of men who were laser-focused on their careers and nothing else, while other men sought success through finding a life partner - both parties being hardwired that way. Being in the latter group for the majority of my 20s, I've reached a point where my priorities have shifted and I find myself focused solely on my career at the moment. Having always hoped that something else would grab hold of my attention other than dating, I'm actually happy to be so career focused and not have the time to think about relationships. It'...

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RobHeartsDH
June 6, 2013
Category: Wellness
Allure of the Heterosexual Man

Picture a tall, beefy, Jake Gyllenhaal. I've seen this vision every morning at my gym for the past few weeks. Massive arms, massive back, hairy chest, stomach, and a clean cut look to balance it all out. I knew he was straight when I first saw him, but that didn't stop me from striking up a conversation with him about what he was lifting. I figured, maybe, just maybe, I was wrong and he was just shy. Unfortunately for me, we started chatting, he smiled, and that's when I full on fell in love/melted into this meat head. The problem is, he's still straight and there's absolutely no chance that'll change in the near future/ever. And yet, I still find myself lost in the fantasy that every time he works out near me that may change. What is it about straight guys that makes them so damn attractive?

Well, for one they're unattainable. Issue a challenge to any man, gay or straight, and see how hard they fight to win. Then you've got the raw masculinity that so many of these straights exude. Not all, but many. And in a gay world where so many are seeking out "masc" men there's something inherently appealing about a man who need not be questioned about it. Then of course there are the millions upon millions of porn fantasies that have been put upon us all, whether it be a locker room, frat house, or bait and switch scene, a straight guy's first time is just fucking hot.

But the reality is, just as there's no hope any of us will switch teams, you're looking at a dead end. No matter how many beers you fill them with, the challenges that follow wouldn't be easy....

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RobHeartsDH
June 3, 2013
Category: Wellness
Tough Mudder

At the beginning of the year I started to make a list. A list of all the things I wanted to accomplish in my life. No particular order, no limit or fear of thinking big or bold. This is a list that continues to grow as new goals, wants, and achievements pop into my head. This past weekend I was able to cross off the first of many on that list, which is to complete a Tough Mudder race. It's important to note that I do not run. In fact I would venture to say I am a horrible runner and terrible when it comes to activities that require a lot of endurance (save for a few more bedroom minded activities). But I completed the race and all the mud crawling, fire jumping, freezing water diving, wall climbing, electrocution avoiding obstacles that came with it. A few months back I set this goal and started to build up my running endurance. A little here on the treadmill, a jog with a friend in the park; and by the time the race finally came (which ended up being a lot more running that I had even anticipated) I managed to stay with the front of the pack. It helped that the guys competing in this race could motivate just about anyone to chase after them. The hotness and shirtlessness alone was reason enough to be glad I participated. Oof. When I crossed that finish line, the pride and accomplishment I felt in having set a goal and completed it was unlike any other.

I've said that 2013 would be a year of change for me, a year to shake things up...

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RobHeartsDH
May 29, 2013
Category: Wellness
antiperspirant deodorants armpit

Over at Lifehacker they're exploring the difference between antiperspirants and deodorants and how they work. Now since we all know and love to debate our pit scents here, I figured it'd be a good article to bring to everyone's attention. Personally, I use antiperspirants if only to avoid pit stains (as much as one can) at work. But I do get nervous about what I'm putting on my body (aluminium chlorohydrate and aluminium zirconium tetrachlorohydrate) and the oftentimes chalky and oddly textured residue that stays on them long after the day is through. If I could guarantee the degree of my pit stank I would venture to wear nothing at all, but even I know that there are days when going sans any protection can leave me smelling unattractively rank. There's a wonderful happy medium I've found when after a long hot day the antiperspirant has worn off and the scent from that mixes with my own that (to me at least) seems pretty pleasant. I'm wondering if that has the same effect as my natural scent when it comes to attracting men.

But I turn it over to you dear readers. What do you prefer to wear or not wear on your underarms? And have you been able to key in on what makes for natural and attractive smelling man made musk?