Gay Daddy & Bear Blog: Age Appropriate

RobHeartsDH
December 9, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Tom and Dustin

When super hottie Olympic diver Tom Daley announced he was dating a dude, it only took about a day or two for reporters to discover that the dude in question was Oscar winning writer Dustin Lance Black. After the initial shock and delight wore off, many people turned to the fact that Tom, 19, was dating someone 20 years his senior. Maybe it's because public outings are more mainstream these days, but there seemed to be an unfavorable reaction to the age gap. I call out the mainstream factor because amongst the gay community most men understand that age differences in our world are fairly common and mostly accepted. We've discussed at length on this blog the uniting bonds of coming out and being a minority which can oftentimes grant a strong foundation for older-young relationships, but it seems that there's still a bit of taboo when it comes to May-December romances. I'd venture to say many of those negative reactions stem from jealously that Tom Daley can't be theirs, but it does bring up an interesting topic regarding the mainstreaming of gay culture.

The Huffington Post is on the same page as us, but I'm wondering: outside of the gay community (or in) have you experienced negative reactions to dating...

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Official Daddyhunt
December 6, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
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In the new movie Last Vegas, Robert DeNiro, Michael Douglas, Morgan Freeman, and Kevin Kline prove that having a blast in that rollicking, high-rolling town isn’t just a young man’s game. In fact, we enjoyed watching those four silver-screen silver foxes celebrating in Sin City so much that it got our devilish daddy selves itching to book our own trip. But what’s a daddy to do in the 702? Turns out plenty! Here’s just a few daddy-approved points of interest we’re adding to our itinerary.

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Leave those overcrowded hotels on the strip behind and feel at home at Blue Moon Resort! This three-floor, all-gay destination boasts modern accommodations and plenty of great amenities, including a lagoon-style pool, multiple sundecks, a private Jacuzzi grotto, complimentary breakfast, free WiFi, and more. No wonder it’s received a Certificate of Excellence from Trip Advisor the last two years running and been voted the best place in Vegas for gay men to hang out. Owner John Hessling also deals out a number of special events throughout the year, including the Las Vegas Gay Sports Festival (January), Big Horn Rodeo (May), Lucky Bear Weekend (September), and their popular weekly Boys and Burgers party (...

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RobHeartsDH
December 2, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Jon-Erik Hexum

With the recent, tragic passing of Paul Walker, it's just another reminder to live life to the fullest. You never know when the end may be so do what you need to in the time you're given. Queerty has a rounded up a list of men that were also taken too soon. Everyone from James Dean to the more recent Core Monteith. Who would you have liked to see blossom and fulfill a greater destiny?

Any of your favorites on or missing from the list? Honor them in the comments below.

Official MISTER
December 2, 2013
Category: Health
Introducing Hula: Making STI Testing Easier

Yesterday was World AIDS Day and, in commemoration, we’re announcing a partnership with Hula, a free mobile app (available only in the U.S., for now) that can help you take control of your sexual health and keep HIV prevention and awareness going strong all year round.

So what’s Hula? In our opinion, it’s a game changer when it comes to taking the hassle and stress out of STI testing. If you’ve been tested in the past, you know it can be a tedious experience at best and a terrifying one at worst. Hula makes the whole thing a lot less painful by giving you the information you need to decide which centers and services are right for you. Want to know which testing centers receive the best ratings and reviews from actual patients? Or which have the most up-to-date testing methods? Hula gives you all this info and more, right at your fingertips. Users can also choose to have their results sent straight to their phone, which not only saves you time but also provides you with a convenient digital record of your results that you can share with others.

We know that there are many places online to find testing locations, but we think the ease with you can do it on Hula makes a difference. With a recent study showing that as many as 1 in 10 guys using a gay app has never had an HIV test, new ways to access to this information is still really important.

Ready to check it out? Signup or download the app...

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Official MISTER
November 29, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
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Welcome to "Gay Founding Fathers," an exclusive series that goes back—sometimes way back—through queer culture to introduce you to gay men who made a difference, made history, made us swoon, and just plain made us be proud to be who we are.

Showbiz is a notoriously tough game for actors, especially if they’re not willing to play by the rules. Image is everything, and one misstep can turn even the Hollywood royalty into box-office poison faster than you can scream, “Cut!” But this week’s entry in our Gay Founding Father series, actor turned interior designer Billy Haines, managed to buck that trend with a career second act that was even more successful—and honest—than his first.

Born on Jan. 2, 1900 in Staunton, Virginia, Haines became fascinated with movies as a child and spent a great deal of time watching silent films at the local theater. Recognizing his homosexuality at an early age, he ran away from home with a boyfriend to the bigger city of Hopewell, where the two opened up a dance hall. But Haines knew there was more out there waiting for him, so like thousands of other young men with big dreams, he moved to New York City, working odd jobs, modeling, and becoming a presence in Greenwich Village’s burgeoning gay community.

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He soon struck pay dirt. Spotted by a talent scout, who was taken by the 20-year-old’s handsome good looks and silver screen appeal, Haines signed a $40-a-week contract with mega movie producer Samuel Goldwyn. His...

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RobHeartsDH
November 25, 2013
Category: Wellness
Gay Thanksgiving

It's almost that time of year here in the states. The time when we think about all that we're thankful for: Thanksgiving! Our friends, our family, food, shelter, water - we sit down to appreciate all the good stuff. But this year, I'm tasking us all with thinking about the bad things that we should be thankful for and flipping the script a little bit. Because let's be honest, without the bad there can't be good. It's important to acknowledge both sides to really truly be grateful for what you have. For instance, I'm truly thankful that I got my heart broken a year ago because it ultimately led to me the best year of my life so far. I'm also grateful for the weight I gained recently as it's been the only thing to motivate me back to the gym to get into the best shape of my life. See? There's plenty of seemingly bad that can be used for good. In either reflection or goal setting looking at the bad things can make you appreciate what you have more and/or be an incredible incentive to change things for the better.

So this year, when you sit down to give thanks, think about the bad things to be grateful for. And in the meantime tell us about them in the comments below.

RobHeartsDH
November 18, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Daddy the Play

We love a good Kickstarter campaign, especially when it creates something we want to see made. Not too long ago Dan Via and Gerald McCulloch brought their play, Daddy to New York and LA. For those who couldn't make it to either coast we've got some good news as the pair are looking to take the play from stage to screen and are using Kickstarter to help raise the production funds. For someone who loves a good daddy tale in any media, I'm hoping the pair hit their mark and can create this funny and heartbreaking play into an equally funny and heartbreaking film.

Here's a quick plot synopsis:

Colin McCormack (Gerald McCullouch) thinks he has it all — a great job, a steady stream of hot younger men, and a best friend, Stew (Dan Via), whose devotion he takes for granted. But when a charming and mercurial intern sweeps him off his feet, Colin sees a chance for something more: A family of his own. What he discovers instead is a shattering truth that may cost Colin everything — and everyone — he holds dear.

Take a look at Daddy's Kickstarter page and throw 'em some daddy love.

Do you wish there were more daddy relationships shown on screen?

RobHeartsDH
November 11, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Big Gay 40

We all love a good list. Whether it be countdown or bucket, lists help us bring order to this world and make life more manageable. Over at Queerty they've compiled a list of the 40 Things Every Gay Man Should Do Before Turning 40. If you've got the time you should be sure to give it a read and cross off a few things on the list. But for the purposes of this post, we're going to do a little bit of crowd sourcing. You see, there's plenty to do before 40, but we want to know what are those very specific things that you can only do after 40. Let's compile a list that's speaks to the good the, the bad, and the ugly of post 40 life and all those special privileges that only a seasoned man of this world gets to enjoy.

We want you to have fun with it, so if it's no longer staying out till 6 AM or owning property send it our way. Chat with your friends and bring back some good ones and when we've got 40 worthy entries we'll post the article for all the enjoy and adhere to. Let's make this the list for the post 40 crowd. Now get to it!

RobHeartsDH
November 7, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Locker Twerk

This video was making the rounds this week and it got me thinking back to my days in the locker room with the lacrosse team. There's always plenty of hijinks and hot moments when you're a gay man on a team sport (as evidence by the video below), so we want to hear some particularly hot stories from all of you. Share your best/hottest locker room tales in the comments below and don't skimp on the details. Let's get each other worked up.

And might I add...this is the twerk to end all twerks.

RobHeartsDH
October 31, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Daddy Kiss

There is nothing better than a good first kiss. Aside from the aforementioned goodness of the kiss, there's the added relief of knowing that you could kiss this person again and like it. On the flip side, a bad first kiss is not only a huge disappointment but ultimately a deal breaker. I'll always give someone a few more tries (because yes, sometimes angles matter and people have off days), but if after a few tries it's not working there's little hope for me sticking around. Some say you can fix a bad kisser, but I don't know that that's true. You can try to course correct, but unless you're willing to flat out say they're not a good kisser, they don't often times get the hint. There's also the theory that bad kissers are only bad kissers because they're not kissing the right people. Perhaps a bad kisser to you is an amazing to kisser to some. I dated someone who was objectively a very handsome man. I could not understand how this man could be nearly 40, this good looking, and a terrible kisser. I wondered if because he was so intimidatingly hot that no one had ever told him he was a bad kisser and he just went on unknowingly kissing badly with everyone. But maybe to someone else he was amazing. Lip syncing in the kissing sense is key, because when you do meet someone who's lips work perfectly with yours, life is good.

The The New York Times published a story recently about the science behind kissing. There are plenty of...

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