What sorts of comments might intergenerational couples get from other people, and how should they respond?
Gold Digger, obviously. It’s easy to assume that younger guys who date older guys are looking for cash. I’m not saying a big bank account isn’t a plus for some younger guys, but most of the guys on Daddyhunt are genuinely attracted to older men and the things that an older man has to offer, in and out of the bedroom.
Judgment. People can be very judgmental. No — scratch that — they can be evil, vindictive, jealous bitches. That being said, if you and your older/younger partner have love and respect for each other, the people who genuinely care about you will see that. You can’t worry about everyone else.
It can be very painful not to be ‘seen’ for who you are or to be dismissed by other people’s narrow-mindedness. But put that pain and anger into becoming the best boyfriend or partner you can be and taking as much joy, love, growth (and sex) as you can from the experience. One of the central tenets of the gay rights movement is that it doesn’t matter who you love, but how you love them. I think that applies to anyone who goes against the grain, including people brave enough to enter into intergenerational relationships.
Luckily, our society and culture is beginning to get more comfortable with the idea of couples of different ages and as more and more do it publically (Tom Ford, Calvin Klein, Dustin Lance Black…) they will continue to achieve more mainstream acceptance. Relationships between...