Gay Daddy & Bear Blog: Age Appropriate

RobHeartsDH
November 11, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Big Gay 40

We all love a good list. Whether it be countdown or bucket, lists help us bring order to this world and make life more manageable. Over at Queerty they've compiled a list of the 40 Things Every Gay Man Should Do Before Turning 40. If you've got the time you should be sure to give it a read and cross off a few things on the list. But for the purposes of this post, we're going to do a little bit of crowd sourcing. You see, there's plenty to do before 40, but we want to know what are those very specific things that you can only do after 40. Let's compile a list that's speaks to the good the, the bad, and the ugly of post 40 life and all those special privileges that only a seasoned man of this world gets to enjoy.

We want you to have fun with it, so if it's no longer staying out till 6 AM or owning property send it our way. Chat with your friends and bring back some good ones and when we've got 40 worthy entries we'll post the article for all the enjoy and adhere to. Let's make this the list for the post 40 crowd. Now get to it!

RobHeartsDH
November 7, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Locker Twerk

This video was making the rounds this week and it got me thinking back to my days in the locker room with the lacrosse team. There's always plenty of hijinks and hot moments when you're a gay man on a team sport (as evidence by the video below), so we want to hear some particularly hot stories from all of you. Share your best/hottest locker room tales in the comments below and don't skimp on the details. Let's get each other worked up.

And might I add...this is the twerk to end all twerks.

RobHeartsDH
October 31, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Daddy Kiss

There is nothing better than a good first kiss. Aside from the aforementioned goodness of the kiss, there's the added relief of knowing that you could kiss this person again and like it. On the flip side, a bad first kiss is not only a huge disappointment but ultimately a deal breaker. I'll always give someone a few more tries (because yes, sometimes angles matter and people have off days), but if after a few tries it's not working there's little hope for me sticking around. Some say you can fix a bad kisser, but I don't know that that's true. You can try to course correct, but unless you're willing to flat out say they're not a good kisser, they don't often times get the hint. There's also the theory that bad kissers are only bad kissers because they're not kissing the right people. Perhaps a bad kisser to you is an amazing to kisser to some. I dated someone who was objectively a very handsome man. I could not understand how this man could be nearly 40, this good looking, and a terrible kisser. I wondered if because he was so intimidatingly hot that no one had ever told him he was a bad kisser and he just went on unknowingly kissing badly with everyone. But maybe to someone else he was amazing. Lip syncing in the kissing sense is key, because when you do meet someone who's lips work perfectly with yours, life is good.

The The New York Times published a story recently about the science behind kissing. There are plenty of...

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RobHeartsDH
October 28, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Unhung Hero

This isn't the first attempt, and it sure won't be the last, but a new film hopes to finally answer the age old question: does size really does matter? In what's being build as the world's first "cockumentary," Patrick Moote searches the globe for answers after his girlfriend turned down his marriage proposal because of his small penis. It features interviews and insights from doctors, ex-girlfriends, and even advice columnist Dan Savage. While things aren't always apples to apples with the gay and straight community, I think many men wonder if they're big/thick/long enough for their partner. With gay men, it's something we put out there (or get to know) fairly early in a relationship - often times knowing what our partner's packing before we've met. It's just another example of the tricky waters gay men navigate in putting the cart (sex) before the horse (relationships). But we'll save the sex-obsessed culture talk for another post.

Back to the topic at hand, would you break up with someone because they had a small dick? Let's just do our own polling and answer Patrick's question once and for all in the comments below: does size really matter?

RobHeartsDH
October 21, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Queer Eye

Hard to believe, but it was 10 years ago that Queer Eye for the Straight Guy opened the flood gates and unleashed a whole lot of gay on TV screens across the US. Sure there were gay characters on TV, but this was the beginning of something bigger and one of the first times that an entire show was cast with all gay men. With the reality and makeover craze at it's peak, these 5 men were able to win over hearts and minds with their humor and expertise and transformed hetero norms for the better. Sure it was stereotypical, but it was only the beginning of an onslaught of gay characters that have brought about the highest representation of LBGT characters on TV ever.

This week, Andy Cohen hosted the Fab Five for a reunion special where the boys dished on their favorites episodes, body grooming, hookups, and what it meant to be out and proud on TV. I think for many of us, the extremely favorable public response to this show signaled a change in the way the rest of the world thought of us. Coupled with Will & Grace, it made everyone want a Gay BFF who could make them over and style their husbands as well. Whether that was actually the case is another story, but for a little gay reality show on little watched Bravo it ultimately made for a big change in the world.

Were you a Queer Eye fan? Did it change the way straight...

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RobHeartsDH
October 14, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Spooky Bear Weekend

It's almost that time of year again. The best gay holiday there is! No, not Pride. Halloween! It's a day where we can unleash our secret fetishes on an unknowing public and role play loudly and proudly all night long! What better day than for the gays to put their creativity and theme party prowess to good use than Halloween? I've been celebrating New York Halloween for 7 years now and it's always a crazy scene. For an entire week the streets are filled with a plentiful mix of sexy and scary, and that's not even including the annual Village Halloween Parade. There are always plenty of parties that end up being a blast, but this year I needed a venue change. I've heard New Orleans is one of the best cities for Halloween and that was in consideration until I heard about Spooky Bear Weekend in Provincetown.

For years I've heard Provincetown is great in the off season, but Halloween is one of their especially fun weeks (the bear factor pretty much ensures that). And after reading up on it, I'm heading straight up to see what it's all about. But now comes the tricky part of choosing a costume. Given the audience, it's probably best to show a little hair, but I want to up my game this year and create something clever. Any daddies out there good with a sewing machine? Being in a new city should contribute to the adventure factor that comes with Halloween. You usually never really know the people you meet till you see them out of costume, but...

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RobHeartDH
October 9, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Cubcake

Loving how much work was put into this video promoting San Francisco Bear Pride. Not only is it adorable and sexy but also extremely well executed. Those San Franciscans sure are talented. Also, who knew that bear related events had so many ties to food? The festivities run Thursday, November 7th - Monday, November 11th, 2013 and judging from the video line up there seems to be something for everybody, including performances from the very cute and talented Matt Alber, Jeb Havens, and Big Dipper.

We've posed the question before, but given the many gay subcultures our community has, do you feel like separate Prides enhance or dilute our celebrations?

Official Daddyhunt
October 7, 2013
Category: Gay Culture

gay founding fathers jackie walker

Welcome to "Gay Founding Fathers," a new series that goes back—sometimes way back—through queer culture to introduce you to gay men who made a difference, made history, made us swoon, and just plain made us be proud to be who we are.

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In the past couple of years, we've seen more gay athletes coming out of the closet than ever before (YES!), but only time will tell if sportsmen like Wade Davis, Jason Collins, and Robbie Roberts will be remembered for their achievements on the playing field as much as the moves they made off of it. With football season in full swing, we can't help but recognize one of the golden boys who managed to do both: All-American linebacker Jackie Walker.

Athletically gifted, smart, good looking, and humble to a fault, Walker's greatness was already being predicted when he became the first African American to attend the University of Tennessee on scholarship, in 1970. And the freshman from Knoxville wasted no time in making good on his promise. Despite not being a senior, his teammates elected him captain for the '71 season, making him the first African-American to lead an SEC team, and he shattered a number of NCAA records, including making the most number of career interceptions converted into touchdowns, a title that he...

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RobHeartsDH
October 3, 2013
Category: Dating
Daddy Coffee Date

With so many of our social interactions moving online these days, people seem to be of two minds about how best to proceed after the first encounter. Some like to take their time and get to know people via long messages first then progress to more tangible interactions like a phone call or meet up in real life. While others like to view a profile and set up a face to face meeting right away. There's no right or wrong way to do it, and that's the beauty of online dating: it's what you make of it.

There's something to be said for each path. On the one hand, there's a lot you can learn about a person through correspondence and I would argue that you can get a good sense of who someone is via writing. But then there's the hard truth about physical attraction and chemistry, which is only something an in person interaction can provide. It's possible a good rapport online can translate into the waking world, but it can also be a let down when you've built someone up in your mind and come to find it doesn't hold true after the first meeting. Which is why sometimes it's better to expedite things by messaging and setting up a date shortly after. You can learn fairly quickly if you're interested in someone over a quick, pressure-free coffee date

But we want to hear from all of you: do you prefer the long lead messaging or are you more of immediate offliner?

RobHeartsDH
September 30, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Daddy Construction Workers

Watching two daddy bears fall in love on a construction site seems like the best way to start the week. Out gay singer Doug Strahm released his new video for "Better This Way" for us all to enjoy. A heartfelt love song with an eye candy filled video to go a long with it. We like to support these gay singers who continue to put themselves out there (on the sometimes vicious) interwebs. Whatever your tastes may be, we can all appreciate men who go for them dreams and use their creativity for the entertainment of us all.

Are there any up and coming (or long established) gay artists that you've found through the internet that are worth sharing? Post about them in the comments below and link to some of their work for all to see.