There are many different kinds of love and many different ways to say “I LOVE YOU”. But in my experience in relationships I’ve learned that it’s important to say what you mean and mean what you say. Especially when it comes to the “L” word.
Love may be universal but how and when we feel love is entirely individual and personal. Some people are so in touch with their feelings of love (for themselves, for Mother Earth, for the checkout boy at Safeway) that they experience love on a daily basis. Others can only feel love in rare, fleeting moments. There is no right or wrong way of feeling love. But one thing is certain: you either feel it or you don’t.
So I try my best to never say “I love you” to a partner, boyfriend or trick unless I really feel it, in that moment. But when I do feel it and am aware of it, I also make a point to share it with the object of my affection (even if he is miles away).
And I never expect him to say “I love you” back.
Because “I. Love. You.” Is all about ME.
In fact, there’s nothing in these three magic words that refers to the feelings of the other person.
And as much as I may want to hear him say “I love you” back, I’ve learned that it’s neither fair (nor realistic) to expect him to feel towards me exactly as I...