Gay Daddy & Bear Blog: Age Appropriate

Official MISTER
June 7, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Scott Norton Gay Bowler

MR. Scott Norton is this week's Real Man We Admire.

It’s not just because his kisses make headlines and his ball-handling skills snatch trophies that we want to roll with this week’s Real Man We Admire, Scott Norton. It’s also because this pro bowling champion is using his popularity to get people to switch lanes when it comes to thinking about equality.

The now 31-year-old was just 18 when he burst on to the bowling scene by winning a string of amateur titles, including becoming the youngest person ever to take the Adult National Amateur Championship. But that was just the first strike in his long list of accomplishments. In 2011, inspired by the coming out of Phoenix Suns President and CEO Rick Welts, Norton did so as well, becoming the first openly gay player in his sport.

"It is extremely important for me to come out to show other gay athletes, both current and future, that it is important to come out to show that we are just like everyone else,” he wrote, in an article published by the Professional Bowlers Association. “Being gay doesn’t define who I am as a person or as a professional athlete…it's...

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RobHeartsDH
June 6, 2013
Category: Wellness
Allure of the Heterosexual Man

Picture a tall, beefy, Jake Gyllenhaal. I've seen this vision every morning at my gym for the past few weeks. Massive arms, massive back, hairy chest, stomach, and a clean cut look to balance it all out. I knew he was straight when I first saw him, but that didn't stop me from striking up a conversation with him about what he was lifting. I figured, maybe, just maybe, I was wrong and he was just shy. Unfortunately for me, we started chatting, he smiled, and that's when I full on fell in love/melted into this meat head. The problem is, he's still straight and there's absolutely no chance that'll change in the near future/ever. And yet, I still find myself lost in the fantasy that every time he works out near me that may change. What is it about straight guys that makes them so damn attractive?

Well, for one they're unattainable. Issue a challenge to any man, gay or straight, and see how hard they fight to win. Then you've got the raw masculinity that so many of these straights exude. Not all, but many. And in a gay world where so many are seeking out "masc" men there's something inherently appealing about a man who need not be questioned about it. Then of course there are the millions upon millions of porn fantasies that have been put upon us all, whether it be a locker room, frat house, or bait and switch scene, a straight guy's first time is just fucking hot.

But the reality is, just as there's no hope any of us will switch teams, you're looking at a dead end. No matter how many beers you fill them with, the challenges that follow wouldn't be easy....

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RobHeartsDH
June 3, 2013
Category: Wellness
Tough Mudder

At the beginning of the year I started to make a list. A list of all the things I wanted to accomplish in my life. No particular order, no limit or fear of thinking big or bold. This is a list that continues to grow as new goals, wants, and achievements pop into my head. This past weekend I was able to cross off the first of many on that list, which is to complete a Tough Mudder race. It's important to note that I do not run. In fact I would venture to say I am a horrible runner and terrible when it comes to activities that require a lot of endurance (save for a few more bedroom minded activities). But I completed the race and all the mud crawling, fire jumping, freezing water diving, wall climbing, electrocution avoiding obstacles that came with it. A few months back I set this goal and started to build up my running endurance. A little here on the treadmill, a jog with a friend in the park; and by the time the race finally came (which ended up being a lot more running that I had even anticipated) I managed to stay with the front of the pack. It helped that the guys competing in this race could motivate just about anyone to chase after them. The hotness and shirtlessness alone was reason enough to be glad I participated. Oof. When I crossed that finish line, the pride and accomplishment I felt in having set a goal and completed it was unlike any other.

I've said that 2013 would be a year of change for me, a year to shake things up...

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Official MISTER
May 30, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Denis O'Hare True Blood Gay Actor

MR. Denis O'Hare is this week's Real Man We Admire.

As excited as we are for the season premiere of “True Blood” on June 16, we can’t help but be a little disappointed that one of our favorite things about watching the show will be missing: getting glamoured through our TV set by this week’s Real Man We Admire, Denis O’Hare.

As the 2,800-year-old villainous (and totally gay) Vampire King of Mississippi Russell Edgington, the celebrated actor (himself openly gay) constantly raised the dramatic stakes on the hit HBO drama—that is until he was stabbed right through the heart with one during last season’s nail-biter finale.

No worries, though. While you might not be seeing him in Bon Temps anymore, rest assured O’Hare will be biting into more great roles very soon. After all, the 51-year-old is one of Hollywood’s most respected character actors and a model for other out and proud performers looking to avoid being typecast. Throughout his career, he’s played both straight and gay roles in a slew of popular movies (“Milk,” “The Proposal”), TV series (“American Horror Story,” “The Good Wife”), and Broadway shows (he won a Tony Award in 2003 for portraying a baseball-loving gay business manager in the critically acclaimed play “Take Me Out”).

“Well, it’s certainly home territory,” he told Out magazine about his playing gay characters. “You can kind of...

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May 29, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Behind the Candelabra Gay Michael Douglas

Yeah, Daddy! After months of buzz, HBO's Liberace biopic, "Behind the Candelabra," finally premiered this past weekend, and boy did it glitter! The Steven Soderbergh-directed film—starring Michael Douglas as the legendary blinged-out piano player and Matt Damon as his bisexual boy toy, Scott Thorson—scored the network's highest ratings in over a decade, proving that explicitly gay stories are more than bankable. We were one of the 2.4 million viewers who tuned in, and we loved it! If you haven't caught it yet, or are on the fence about handing over two hours of your life to a movie about some old queen, we've compiled 10 reasons why it's definitely worth your time.

1. It Could Be a First
We still wonder sometimes about "Chico and the Man," but we'll go out on a limb and say that "BTC" is probably the first time ever a gay daddy/son relationship has been featured on the small screen. And boy, is it a good one! Oscar-nominated screenwriter Richard LaGravenese's script doesn't shy away from anything, candidly showing the universal ups and downs every couple goes through: passion, love, below-the-belt jabs, recurring arguments, and even lazy afternoons just vegging out on the couch.

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2. Matt Damon In a Speedo
It's not hard to see why Liberace was so bedazzled by Thorson—he clearly had the complete, uh, package.

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RobHeartsDH
May 29, 2013
Category: Wellness
antiperspirant deodorants armpit

Over at Lifehacker they're exploring the difference between antiperspirants and deodorants and how they work. Now since we all know and love to debate our pit scents here, I figured it'd be a good article to bring to everyone's attention. Personally, I use antiperspirants if only to avoid pit stains (as much as one can) at work. But I do get nervous about what I'm putting on my body (aluminium chlorohydrate and aluminium zirconium tetrachlorohydrate) and the oftentimes chalky and oddly textured residue that stays on them long after the day is through. If I could guarantee the degree of my pit stank I would venture to wear nothing at all, but even I know that there are days when going sans any protection can leave me smelling unattractively rank. There's a wonderful happy medium I've found when after a long hot day the antiperspirant has worn off and the scent from that mixes with my own that (to me at least) seems pretty pleasant. I'm wondering if that has the same effect as my natural scent when it comes to attracting men.

But I turn it over to you dear readers. What do you prefer to wear or not wear on your underarms? And have you been able to key in on what makes for natural and attractive smelling man made musk?

Official MISTER
May 24, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Anton Krasovsky Gay Russian Newscaster

MR. Anton Krasovsky is this week's Real Man We Admire.

What happens when the person reporting the news becomes the headline himself? Ask Anton Krasovsky, this week’s Real Man We Admire. The Russian political journalist and television personality shocked audiences earlier this year when he came out live on air, risking his career (and, arguably, his life) in the process.

In a scene straight out of the classic film “Network,” the 39-year-old former head of Russia’s government-sponsored Kontr TV network, ended his broadcast by saying, “I’m gay, and I’m just the same person as you, my dear audience, as president Putin, as prime minister Medvedev, and deputies of our Duma.” He was fired the next day.

Krasovsky’s surprise statement was brave by any standard, but even more so when you consider Russia’s notoriously oppressive stance on homosexuality. While being gay is not technically illegal, the government recently passed a series of laws against distributing “homosexual propaganda,” enacted a ban on adoptions by same-sex couples, and barred gay pride parades from ever taking place in Moscow well into the next century. Anti-gay violence, including murder, also appears to be on the rise.

So what made Krasovsky put it all on the line? Much like fictional newsman Howard Beale, he was...

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RobHeartsDH
May 20, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Thumbs Down

I thought it might get better. After a bit of a rough start, I tried to be hopeful that we would eventually sync up as we progressed to the good stuff, but sadly that sync up would never arrive: I was in the middle of one of the worst hook ups ever and I didn't know how to get out.

He was perfectly cute when I met him out at the bar, just a little less cute when he arrived at my apartment a few days later after a series of escalatingly flirty sexts. Maybe it was the fact that he was drunk, or trying to kick box with me when all I wanted to do was get off and go to sleep. Whatever it was, I knew I wanted it to end before it even began. But how do you excuse yourself from something so intimate? Is it better to power through and make the best of it or just bring everything to a full stop and ask them to leave?

We want to hear from you dear reader: tell about your hook ups from hell (and don't spare in the gory details). Let's all bask in the terrible afterglows together. While you're at it, let us know what you think is right when it comes to hook up etiquette when you're not into it.

Official MISTER
May 17, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Tuc Watkins Gay Soap Star

MR. Tuc Watkins is this week's Real Man We Admire.

We’re not the only ones saying “Hold me, Daddy!” when we stare into the eyes of this week’s Real Man We Admire, soap star Tuc Watkins. So do his newborn twin sons!

In a case of life imitating art, the proud new papa—who played one half of a gay couple trying to adopt a baby on the hit series “Desperate Housewives”—revealed last month during a TV interview that he became a single dad with the help of a surrogate. But that wasn’t the only bundle of joy he delivered to his fans during the broadcast. He also announced publicly for the first time that he’s gay.

Watkins now joins an ever-growing list of gay men—which includes Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka, Ricky Martin, Dan Savage, and Perez Hilton—who are making the leap into fatherhood and helping to redefine the definition of what the all-American family looks like.

“I think a lot of people at some point in their lives think 'Am I going to be a parent, do I want to be a parent?'" Watkins said in the interview. "And when I was young, I knew three things: I knew I was gay, I knew one day I was gonna be a dad, and I knew that Gene Wilder's “Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory” was going to be the best movie of all time. So far, I’ve been right about all three.”’

With two new mouths to feed, it’s a good thing...

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RobHeartsDH
May 13, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
When Did You Choose To Be Straight

This video (uploaded in 2008) has been making the web rounds lately and is pretty impactful, especially for the men and women interviewed in the video.

Do you think if we were able to have more one-on-ones like these, those against us would come around?