Gay Daddy & Bear Blog: Age Appropriate

Official MISTER
May 30, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Denis O'Hare True Blood Gay Actor

MR. Denis O'Hare is this week's Real Man We Admire.

As excited as we are for the season premiere of “True Blood” on June 16, we can’t help but be a little disappointed that one of our favorite things about watching the show will be missing: getting glamoured through our TV set by this week’s Real Man We Admire, Denis O’Hare.

As the 2,800-year-old villainous (and totally gay) Vampire King of Mississippi Russell Edgington, the celebrated actor (himself openly gay) constantly raised the dramatic stakes on the hit HBO drama—that is until he was stabbed right through the heart with one during last season’s nail-biter finale.

No worries, though. While you might not be seeing him in Bon Temps anymore, rest assured O’Hare will be biting into more great roles very soon. After all, the 51-year-old is one of Hollywood’s most respected character actors and a model for other out and proud performers looking to avoid being typecast. Throughout his career, he’s played both straight and gay roles in a slew of popular movies (“Milk,” “The Proposal”), TV series (“American Horror Story,” “The Good Wife”), and Broadway shows (he won a Tony Award in 2003 for portraying a baseball-loving gay business manager in the critically acclaimed play “Take Me Out”).

“Well, it’s certainly home territory,” he told Out magazine about his playing gay characters. “You can kind of...

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May 29, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Behind the Candelabra Gay Michael Douglas

Yeah, Daddy! After months of buzz, HBO's Liberace biopic, "Behind the Candelabra," finally premiered this past weekend, and boy did it glitter! The Steven Soderbergh-directed film—starring Michael Douglas as the legendary blinged-out piano player and Matt Damon as his bisexual boy toy, Scott Thorson—scored the network's highest ratings in over a decade, proving that explicitly gay stories are more than bankable. We were one of the 2.4 million viewers who tuned in, and we loved it! If you haven't caught it yet, or are on the fence about handing over two hours of your life to a movie about some old queen, we've compiled 10 reasons why it's definitely worth your time.

1. It Could Be a First
We still wonder sometimes about "Chico and the Man," but we'll go out on a limb and say that "BTC" is probably the first time ever a gay daddy/son relationship has been featured on the small screen. And boy, is it a good one! Oscar-nominated screenwriter Richard LaGravenese's script doesn't shy away from anything, candidly showing the universal ups and downs every couple goes through: passion, love, below-the-belt jabs, recurring arguments, and even lazy afternoons just vegging out on the couch.

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2. Matt Damon In a Speedo
It's not hard to see why Liberace was so bedazzled by Thorson—he clearly had the complete, uh, package.

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RobHeartsDH
May 29, 2013
Category: Wellness
antiperspirant deodorants armpit

Over at Lifehacker they're exploring the difference between antiperspirants and deodorants and how they work. Now since we all know and love to debate our pit scents here, I figured it'd be a good article to bring to everyone's attention. Personally, I use antiperspirants if only to avoid pit stains (as much as one can) at work. But I do get nervous about what I'm putting on my body (aluminium chlorohydrate and aluminium zirconium tetrachlorohydrate) and the oftentimes chalky and oddly textured residue that stays on them long after the day is through. If I could guarantee the degree of my pit stank I would venture to wear nothing at all, but even I know that there are days when going sans any protection can leave me smelling unattractively rank. There's a wonderful happy medium I've found when after a long hot day the antiperspirant has worn off and the scent from that mixes with my own that (to me at least) seems pretty pleasant. I'm wondering if that has the same effect as my natural scent when it comes to attracting men.

But I turn it over to you dear readers. What do you prefer to wear or not wear on your underarms? And have you been able to key in on what makes for natural and attractive smelling man made musk?

Official MISTER
May 24, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Anton Krasovsky Gay Russian Newscaster

MR. Anton Krasovsky is this week's Real Man We Admire.

What happens when the person reporting the news becomes the headline himself? Ask Anton Krasovsky, this week’s Real Man We Admire. The Russian political journalist and television personality shocked audiences earlier this year when he came out live on air, risking his career (and, arguably, his life) in the process.

In a scene straight out of the classic film “Network,” the 39-year-old former head of Russia’s government-sponsored Kontr TV network, ended his broadcast by saying, “I’m gay, and I’m just the same person as you, my dear audience, as president Putin, as prime minister Medvedev, and deputies of our Duma.” He was fired the next day.

Krasovsky’s surprise statement was brave by any standard, but even more so when you consider Russia’s notoriously oppressive stance on homosexuality. While being gay is not technically illegal, the government recently passed a series of laws against distributing “homosexual propaganda,” enacted a ban on adoptions by same-sex couples, and barred gay pride parades from ever taking place in Moscow well into the next century. Anti-gay violence, including murder, also appears to be on the rise.

So what made Krasovsky put it all on the line? Much like fictional newsman Howard Beale, he was...

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RobHeartsDH
May 20, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Thumbs Down

I thought it might get better. After a bit of a rough start, I tried to be hopeful that we would eventually sync up as we progressed to the good stuff, but sadly that sync up would never arrive: I was in the middle of one of the worst hook ups ever and I didn't know how to get out.

He was perfectly cute when I met him out at the bar, just a little less cute when he arrived at my apartment a few days later after a series of escalatingly flirty sexts. Maybe it was the fact that he was drunk, or trying to kick box with me when all I wanted to do was get off and go to sleep. Whatever it was, I knew I wanted it to end before it even began. But how do you excuse yourself from something so intimate? Is it better to power through and make the best of it or just bring everything to a full stop and ask them to leave?

We want to hear from you dear reader: tell about your hook ups from hell (and don't spare in the gory details). Let's all bask in the terrible afterglows together. While you're at it, let us know what you think is right when it comes to hook up etiquette when you're not into it.

Official MISTER
May 17, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Tuc Watkins Gay Soap Star

MR. Tuc Watkins is this week's Real Man We Admire.

We’re not the only ones saying “Hold me, Daddy!” when we stare into the eyes of this week’s Real Man We Admire, soap star Tuc Watkins. So do his newborn twin sons!

In a case of life imitating art, the proud new papa—who played one half of a gay couple trying to adopt a baby on the hit series “Desperate Housewives”—revealed last month during a TV interview that he became a single dad with the help of a surrogate. But that wasn’t the only bundle of joy he delivered to his fans during the broadcast. He also announced publicly for the first time that he’s gay.

Watkins now joins an ever-growing list of gay men—which includes Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka, Ricky Martin, Dan Savage, and Perez Hilton—who are making the leap into fatherhood and helping to redefine the definition of what the all-American family looks like.

“I think a lot of people at some point in their lives think 'Am I going to be a parent, do I want to be a parent?'" Watkins said in the interview. "And when I was young, I knew three things: I knew I was gay, I knew one day I was gonna be a dad, and I knew that Gene Wilder's “Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory” was going to be the best movie of all time. So far, I’ve been right about all three.”’

With two new mouths to feed, it’s a good thing...

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RobHeartsDH
May 13, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
When Did You Choose To Be Straight

This video (uploaded in 2008) has been making the web rounds lately and is pretty impactful, especially for the men and women interviewed in the video.

Do you think if we were able to have more one-on-ones like these, those against us would come around?

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May 10, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Gus Johnston Gay Athlete

MR. Gus Johnston is this week's Real Man We Admire.

It’s been nearly two weeks since pro basketball player Jason Collins came out of the closet and became the first active player on a major American sports team to be openly gay, and we’re still double dribbling with pride over his history-making revelation. The times, they are a changing! While Collins might be the most high-profile sports figure to go public about his sexuality, we can’t help but think about another sportsman whose coming out story might not have made international headlines but was no less inspiring: this week’s Real Man We Admire, Gus Johnston.

This ginger-bearded Australian field hockey player scored big with sports fans Down Under in late 2011 when he posted an emotional 12-minute video on YouTube in which he outed himself as gay and gave an honest and open assessment of the complex relationship between homophobia and sports. In the film, titled 'The Reality of Homophobia In Sport," the ginger-bearded goalkeeper looked directly into the camera and announced, ''My name is Gus Johnston, I'm a writer, art director, filmmaker, and a hockey goalkeeper, and I'm also a gay man.”

While field hockey isn’t as high-profile as American basketball and certainly not the most popular sport in Australia (that would be cricket), Johnston’s story was still an important one. Up until that point, only three Australian male athletes had ever come out (another being Olympic...

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RobHeartsDH
May 8, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Gay Men Reporting Fewer Partners

A new study suggests that gay men have fewer sex partners. "The mean number of male sexual partners MSM reported in the previous year fell significantly from 2.9 to 2.3 between the two surveys (p = 0.035) and was more marked in men under 24 years old (mean 2.9 to 2.1 partners, p = 0.027). The number of partners also fell in men aged 35 to 44 from 3.0 to 2.2, though this was not quite statistically significant (p = 0.07)." Through the different demos there was a consistent (if not hugely significant) drop in the number of sexual partners, which leads me to wonder if marriage equality is starting to have an effect on our community as a whole. Could it be that with the new possibility of legally settling down with someone a shift is beginning in how we date and hook up? It's probably too early to say, but based on this study it's definitely a possibility.

Unfortunately while the number of sexual partners has dropped, the rates of HIV and STDs have risen. But still some hopeful news is that the number of gay men who had never been tested for HIV fell from 25% to 15%.

With new legal possibilities and views about how we love and live, will there be a shift in the way we think about sexual partners?

RobHeartsDH
May 6, 2013
Category: Relationships
Respect Gay Relationships Logo

I’m all about giving people a chance. Things happen, people have off days, and I guess at the very core of it, I believe that people are inherently good. But at a certain point, no matter how badly you want something to work, you’ve got to put you first. How many times have you given someone you're dating a pass or two when they’ve done something you don’t agree with? Whether it’s calling you back, blowing off plans, or even cheating on you, there are a lot of red flags that we all seem to easily forgive. Once forgiven, it sends a pretty clear message that it’s acceptable behavior and that there’s a lack of respect that will ultimately play a larger role in the relationship. Now I’m talking about the very minor to the very major when it comes to the types of things that we’re all willing to accept, but they all yield similar results.

A friend of mine recently showed up for a date in which the man he was seeing showed up with two unexpected friends. But instead of staying and being part of a date night that was not what he had in mind, he simply told the guy that this wasn’t what he envisioned and that he was going to head home. My initial response was that my friend overreacted and his actions were a little extreme. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized how it important it is to be clear about what you’re looking for, what you want, and what you’re willing to accept. And you know what? The guy called him later that night to apologize and realized that he wasn’t being very respectful of their original plans.

It’s no big secret that I’ve been...

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