Gay Daddy & Bear Blog: Age Appropriate

Official MISTER
May 17, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Tuc Watkins Gay Soap Star

MR. Tuc Watkins is this week's Real Man We Admire.

We’re not the only ones saying “Hold me, Daddy!” when we stare into the eyes of this week’s Real Man We Admire, soap star Tuc Watkins. So do his newborn twin sons!

In a case of life imitating art, the proud new papa—who played one half of a gay couple trying to adopt a baby on the hit series “Desperate Housewives”—revealed last month during a TV interview that he became a single dad with the help of a surrogate. But that wasn’t the only bundle of joy he delivered to his fans during the broadcast. He also announced publicly for the first time that he’s gay.

Watkins now joins an ever-growing list of gay men—which includes Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka, Ricky Martin, Dan Savage, and Perez Hilton—who are making the leap into fatherhood and helping to redefine the definition of what the all-American family looks like.

“I think a lot of people at some point in their lives think 'Am I going to be a parent, do I want to be a parent?'" Watkins said in the interview. "And when I was young, I knew three things: I knew I was gay, I knew one day I was gonna be a dad, and I knew that Gene Wilder's “Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory” was going to be the best movie of all time. So far, I’ve been right about all three.”’

With two new mouths to feed, it’s a good thing...

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May 13, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
When Did You Choose To Be Straight

This video (uploaded in 2008) has been making the web rounds lately and is pretty impactful, especially for the men and women interviewed in the video.

Do you think if we were able to have more one-on-ones like these, those against us would come around?

May 10, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Gus Johnston Gay Athlete

MR. Gus Johnston is this week's Real Man We Admire.

It’s been nearly two weeks since pro basketball player Jason Collins came out of the closet and became the first active player on a major American sports team to be openly gay, and we’re still double dribbling with pride over his history-making revelation. The times, they are a changing! While Collins might be the most high-profile sports figure to go public about his sexuality, we can’t help but think about another sportsman whose coming out story might not have made international headlines but was no less inspiring: this week’s Real Man We Admire, Gus Johnston.

This ginger-bearded Australian field hockey player scored big with sports fans Down Under in late 2011 when he posted an emotional 12-minute video on YouTube in which he outed himself as gay and gave an honest and open assessment of the complex relationship between homophobia and sports. In the film, titled 'The Reality of Homophobia In Sport," the ginger-bearded goalkeeper looked directly into the camera and announced, ''My name is Gus Johnston, I'm a writer, art director, filmmaker, and a hockey goalkeeper, and I'm also a gay man.”

While field hockey isn’t as high-profile as American basketball and certainly not the most popular sport in Australia (that would be cricket), Johnston’s story was still an important one. Up until that point, only three Australian male athletes had ever come out (another being Olympic...

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May 8, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Gay Men Reporting Fewer Partners

A new study suggests that gay men have fewer sex partners. "The mean number of male sexual partners MSM reported in the previous year fell significantly from 2.9 to 2.3 between the two surveys (p = 0.035) and was more marked in men under 24 years old (mean 2.9 to 2.1 partners, p = 0.027). The number of partners also fell in men aged 35 to 44 from 3.0 to 2.2, though this was not quite statistically significant (p = 0.07)." Through the different demos there was a consistent (if not hugely significant) drop in the number of sexual partners, which leads me to wonder if marriage equality is starting to have an effect on our community as a whole. Could it be that with the new possibility of legally settling down with someone a shift is beginning in how we date and hook up? It's probably too early to say, but based on this study it's definitely a possibility.

Unfortunately while the number of sexual partners has dropped, the rates of HIV and STDs have risen. But still some hopeful news is that the number of gay men who had never been tested for HIV fell from 25% to 15%.

With new legal possibilities and views about how we love and live, will there be a shift in the way we think about sexual partners?

May 6, 2013
Category: Relationships
Respect Gay Relationships Logo

I’m all about giving people a chance. Things happen, people have off days, and I guess at the very core of it, I believe that people are inherently good. But at a certain point, no matter how badly you want something to work, you’ve got to put you first. How many times have you given someone you're dating a pass or two when they’ve done something you don’t agree with? Whether it’s calling you back, blowing off plans, or even cheating on you, there are a lot of red flags that we all seem to easily forgive. Once forgiven, it sends a pretty clear message that it’s acceptable behavior and that there’s a lack of respect that will ultimately play a larger role in the relationship. Now I’m talking about the very minor to the very major when it comes to the types of things that we’re all willing to accept, but they all yield similar results.

A friend of mine recently showed up for a date in which the man he was seeing showed up with two unexpected friends. But instead of staying and being part of a date night that was not what he had in mind, he simply told the guy that this wasn’t what he envisioned and that he was going to head home. My initial response was that my friend overreacted and his actions were a little extreme. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized how it important it is to be clear about what you’re looking for, what you want, and what you’re willing to accept. And you know what? The guy called him later that night to apologize and realized that he wasn’t being very respectful of their original plans.

It’s no big secret that I’ve been...

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Official MISTER
May 2, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Sam Champion Gay Celebrity

MR. Sam Champion is this week's Real Man We Admire.

We know, spring might have officially sprung way back in March, but it wasn't until this week that New York City, home to the MISTER headquarters, really started to feel the change of seasons. Now that it's here, we're looking forward to this week's Real Man We Admire, "Good Morning America" weatherman Sam Champion, letting us know about all all the beautiful days that lie ahead.

With a prime spot on America's #1 morning show, the 51-year-old brings viewers around the world a little ray of sunshine Monday through Friday with his informative weather reporting, and easy rapport with co-hosts Robin Roberts and George Stephanopoulos. But for us, it's his willingness to not be afraid to reveal who he really is that keeps us tuning in. This past October, Champion revealed on air that he had gotten engaged to his partner of three years, artist Rubem Robierb. While his sexuality was somewhat of an open secret when he was  local weatherman on New York City's WABC-TV, going public on a show whose popularity is dependent upon big-time advertisers and support from Middle America was definitely a risk.

In perhaps a sign of the changing times, barely anyone balked. In fact, the show trumpeted the nuptials, keeping viewers up-to-date on the big day (the wedding went off without a hitch this past New Year's Eve) and featuring it prominently on their website. And when viewers did express bigotry...

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April 29, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Swiss Army Knife

It can be pretty mind blowing when you sync up with someone your dating or hooking up with sexually. For all the variable that go into the relationship equation, when 2 bodies together equal great sex, I'd call that a big win. Everyone brings something different to the sexual table, whether that's giving good head, good rim jobs, or being one hell of a great kisser, and this is when we can take these superlative studs and learn from them. After all sexual exploration is all about experience and gaining knowledge about what you like/don't like and learning new techniques. I would say of all the reasons to have an open relationship, bringing home something new to your skill set is one of the least discussed. And it can do wonders for your sex life. Even as a singleton, when you find someone who's the best at what they do, it can be life changing. It had been a while since I had a great kisser in my life and recently dated someone that reminded me of how good it can be when lips works together to make magic.

But now I want to open the floor to all of you, think of the comments as a sales floor and sell us on your best sexual skill set is. Or tell us a tale of the best you've ever had below.

Official MISTER
April 27, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Kelvin Atkinson Gay Politician

MR. Kelvin Atkinson is this week's Real Man We Admire.

Honest, candid, and vulnerable aren’t the first words that come to mind when we think of politicians, but they perfectly sum up Kelvin Atkinson, this week’s Real Man We Admire. The Nevada state Senator (D-North Las Vegas) surprised many of his constituents and fellow politicos this week when he publicly came out during a debate to repeal his state’s ban on gay marriage.

“I’m black. I’m gay. I’ve dealt a lot with what people are talking about,“ he announced on the state Senate floor, in what felt like a completely raw, unrehearsed moment. “I know this is the first time many of you have hear me say that I’m a black, gay male.”

The 44-year-old, who has been part of Nevada’s legislature for more than a decade, says he was moved to come out after listening to months of heated discussion from voters over Senate Joint Resolution 13, which would abolish the heterosexual definition of marriage that’s been in Nevada’s Constitution since 2002.

“I didn’t think. I just knew it was time,” he told reporters afterwards. “I never considered myself not out. I didn’t care who knew, I just didn’t ever think that I needed to make a public statement about it.”

We’re glad you did, Senator, and we wish more public figures would follow suit. Not only did the bill pass (Nevada residents will vote on the issue in 2016), but Atkinson claims his speech swayed at least two other lawmakers...

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Official Daddyhunt
April 24, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Greg Scarnici Put a Finger On It Video

We’re big fans of furry funnyman Greg Scarnici’s ability always find the humor in taboo topics, and his latest comedy video, “Put a Finger In It,” is no exception. This hilarious ode to the art of, umm, shall we say, “digital” love had us rolling, and we think you’ll give it two big thumbs up, too.

Now, we know some of you guys, particularly those who prefer the top bunk, might find the idea of having someone pull up to your bumper somewhat of a touchy subject, but we’re curious: does the desire for anal stimulation when you're getting your rod worked on mean you might secretly be a closet bottom?

The answer, at least according to this article we found on Psychology Today’s website, is not necessarily. In fact, it just means you’re completely normal. Turns out people of all sexual persuasions—including 24% of straight men—enjoy the art of the backdoor finger bang every once in a while.

So go ahead, all you top dogs out there, embrace your inner bottom. Better yet, share your favorite techniques for getting into the dig in the comments section. We promise nobody will point fingers. Well, unless you want them to.

April 23, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Hairy Gay Muscle Bear

As I've come to realize, once you have a type it's pretty hard to step outside of what you like. No matter how hard you try. I can pinpoint pretty significant instances when I realized that I liked hairy guys and then subsequently was attracted to older hairy guys. Both stem from my adolescence (one in my middle school gym class and the latter due to my hot as hell 8th grade Earth Science teacher) and proved to be pretty formative in shaping the rest of my gay adult life.

But I want to hear from you guys, when did you know you liked older or younger guys? Was it a specific person or experience that left a mark on you? Let's start a discussion on how our attractions (and ultimately types) are created in our lives.